Uphawu lokusulwa
Ngakho-ke, isicelo sithunyelwe ehhovisi lokubhalisa, futhi sazisa umndeni olandelayo mayelana nomcimbi ozayo. Yini eqale lapha ... Inqubo iye yathuthuka ukuze singakwazi ukuyibuyisela emuva: iziphakamiso ezingenakucatshangwa kakhulu nokucabanga kwangena ezihlotsheni zabo. Uma singakaxoxiswanga futhi senzelwe, manje ngosizo lwamama, obaba, okakazi, omalume, njll, baya ezenzweni ezithile!
Umshado ongenakulibaleka owesifazane wesimanje waqala ngokufuna ingubo. Yini ongayikhetha? Ngabeka izimo: okokuqala, ingubo ngeke ibe mhlophe, ukhilimu noma i-champagne, futhi okwesibili, ayikho isembozo: ayifushane, ayiphakathi, noma ayikho isikhathi eside, nami ngingumfanekiso "wokungabi nabulungisa"! Ngakhetha le ngubo nomyeni wami (naphezu kwezimangalo ukuthi lokhu kubi). Sifike ku-salon yokuqala yomshado endleleni yethu, futhi ngakhetha ingubo engangiyithandana nayo ngokushesha: kwakuwumbala wegolide okhanyayo nge-skirt kanye nesitimela esincane. Ngabe senginconywa ukuthi ngizame phezu kwesihenqo, ngangiyinto encane "ngahlephula", kepha kwavuma - kwakuhle kakhulu futhi kuhle kakhulu kumgqoko, bese kuthi ubucwebe bekhanda lithathwe. Ngakho, ngase ngikulungele ukuya ehhovisi lokubhalisa.
Futhi-ke, esembathweni somshado nge-hairdo enhle nesigqoko ekhanda lami ngilindele ukuthi ngiyithinte. UTamada, ngaphambi kokuba egijimane ukuyohlangana nomkhwenyana "nabafowabo", wakwazi ukumemeza wathi: "Hewu, hamba esihlalweni!" UNkulunkulu, yisiphi isihlalo, kungani kufanele sibe? UNowa walalela. Umkhwenyana wami ompofu wayedidekile - wangena ekamelweni futhi wema emnyango ngaphandle kokuza kimi futhi "ukukhulula", kwakudingeka ngitshele ngokuqondile ukuthi wangithatha, umfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo, esihlalweni. Ngemuva kokuphuza i-champagne, ngokweqile siphume ngaphandle kwendlu, ngoba sase siphelile. Phakathi nomdwebo, ngathukuthele futhi angikwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo, ngazama ukulalela lokho isisebenzi sehhovisi lokubhalisa sasitshela, kodwa imicabango yami yayilokhu ishiywe endaweni ethile, kuhle ukuthi umbuzo ohlonishwayo "Uyavumelana na?" Wayenesikhathi sokuzwa nokuphendula ngendlela enhle.
Lapho sisayine futhi sishintsha izindandatho, umzuzu kanye lapho "izihlobo ezikhala" beza ukusihalalisela. Ngabe ngiqaphela ukuthi konke lokhu kuxabana kwakungeyona ize, ngoba okwamanje kwakudingeka ukugqoke ingubo, efana nekhekhe, isembozo, futhi ukubhekana nokuvivinya ngezicathulo eziphezulu. Okwakwenzekile kwakufana nephupho: ukugibela ezungeze idolobha, ukudansa, ukuhalalisela, ukubonga, izimbali, izipho - futhi konke kwaphela ngo-4 ekuseni.
Uphawu lothando nemvume
"Yini eyashintsha ngemva komshado?" - abangane bami abaningi bangibuza. Ngiyakwazi ukuphendula! lo mbuzo kuphela okulandelayo: akukho lutho oluzoshintsha uma lo mbhangqwana ungadingi ukulinganisa ubuhlobo bawo. Siphila ngesikhathi lapho abantu bezama ukwenza lula izinto ezibalulekile njengomndeni, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabashade, wonke umuntu uyazisa ukuzimela, inkululeko, futhi uNkulunkulu akavumelani, uma umuntu engenelela kule nkululeko. Ngakhulela ngokuvumelana nemigomo "endala": Kufanele ngibe ngumkakho, hhayi intombazane ehlangana naye kanye nesikhathi esithile futhi aphile, bese kuthi, uma "singahambisani nabalingiswa", mhlawumbe singabelana.
Ngingasho ukuthi kuyamnandi kakhulu uma bekubiza ngokuthi "intombazane yami" kodwa umkami, kuhle ukumbona ngomunwe wesandla sakho sokunene indandatho - "isibonakaliso sothando nokuvumelana", kuhle ukuphatha igama lomyeni futhi ngokuvamile kubumnandi ukubona izihlobo ezijabulayo ezazikulindele kakhulu lo mzuzu futhi ujabule nathi!
Umngcele omusha
Umkhosi womshado ubaluleke kakhulu. Kuyinto yokwenziwa komuntu waleso sisekelo esihlukanisa isimo sobusha abangenasidingo esivela emthwalweni wokuvuthwa. Umuntu uthanda ukuthanda, uhloniphe futhi ahlale ethembekile kumuntu obophezela ukuphetha kwakhe. Ngokuletha lesi sifungo kuye kanye nalabo abakhona emshadweni ezihlotsheni nabangane bakhe, umuntu uyashintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo sangaphakathi, uthatha izibopho ezintsha ebusweni babantu obaluleke kakhulu okumele abhekane nabo uma ephula lesi sifungo. Phela, umshado uyisikhungo senhlalakahle, futhi ukubaluleka komkhosi womshado ngezindlela eziningi kunokugxila komphakathi.
Umbono ovamile
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungiselela umcimbi womshado: ukuthunga noma ukuthenga ingubo kumlobokazi, ukhethe indawo yokugubha, ukuhlanganisa uhlu lwezivakashi. Lena inqubo ethatha isikhathi futhi ihlaziya inhloso yayo.
Ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zansuku zonke, umkhwenyana nomakoti bajwayele ukujwayela, bazama ukwenza umbono ovamile, isisombululo esihlangene sezinkinga, okuyinto enhle yendawo yokuphila komndeni.
Ngokuqinisekile, inkumbulo yemikhosi yomshado igcinwa iminyaka eminingi, futhi uma izingane ezizalwa kulo mshado zikhula, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bazi ukuthi "kwakunjani" nomama nobaba.