Ama-pair of Ideal akukhona, ngoba kubudlelwane ababili abazimele bahlangana, okusho ukuthi okungenani ukuqubuzana okuncane kwezinhlamvu, ukubukwa nezinye izinto kwenzeka ngokushesha noma kamuva kunoma yikuphi ukubili. Ngakho-ke, abantu kudingeka benze izinto eziyekethisa, bazilungiselele komunye nomunye. Ezimweni eziningi, omunye wabalingani wenza lokhu kaningi kunomunye. Nakuba kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane uyabuthakathaka, okusho ukuthi uvame ukwenza ukuvumelana, lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Ukuzivocavoca kubonisa ukuthi amadoda angase ahlehlise, ngoba bafuna ukugwema izingxabano, izinyembezi, ukucacisa ubuhlobo, njll. Abesifazane bathambekele kakhulu ekuboniseni imizwelo enobudlova nokuhlela ukusebenza. Kufanele kube nokulinganisela okulinganayo kukho konke. Yimiphi imithetho eyisisekelo okufanele ibonwe ngokuphathelene nendoda?
Isikhathi somuntu siqu. Uma umuntu wakho efuna ukubuka ibhola, ukudlulisa, njll, mnike ithuba lokukwenza. Mshiye isikhala sokuzilibazisa, ukuzilibazisa, ukuphishekela okuthandayo. Noma mhlawumbe umyeni wakho uvela emsebenzini othukuthele, ekhathele, wathola umphathi wakhe ngamagundane akhe, unezinkinga zemali noma enye into? Mnike isikhathi sokuza ngokwakhe futhi abe yedwa nemicabango yakhe, uma efuna. Ungakhathazeki ukubuza uma ubona ukuthi akatholakali ukukhuluma. Uzoba yedwa naye, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzobe esilungele ukuxoxa ngezinkinga nawe.
Yini enye ecasula amadoda kwabesifazane? Abayithandi uma abesifazane beyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Kufanele ube ngokwakho, ngoba uyakuthanda, njengakho. Uma ungakhululekile ngokubukeka kwakho, shintsha okuthile kuwe, kodwa ungahambi kakhulu. Isibonelo, uma unesisindo esiningi, ungazisebenzisi zonke izidlo ezidliwe, uzenze ukhulelwe. Ukulwa nesisindo ngezindlela ezinempilo. Uma ingasebenzi, khumbula ukuthi owesifazane angabheka ubuhle futhi abuhle futhi anebunjwa obuhle kakhulu. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, zithande ngobuqotho, khona-ke abanye bazokubuka ngokuhlukile. Amadoda afana nabesifazane, abazethemba ngokwabo kanye nokukhangisa kwabo.
Amadoda ashukukuthele kakhulu umhawu obuhlungu ophezu kwe-paranoia, kubo bonke olandelanayo nangaphandle. Ukungathembeki okunjalo kukwazi ekugcineni ukubulala noma yikuphi ukuzwa noma ukugqugquzela umuntu okungenani ukuthi abe nomdlavuza ohlangothini. Yikuphi ngempela lapho, uma bonke bebekwa icala ngokungenasisekelo ngezono zonke? Amadoda ayesaba ukuzwela ngokweqile, uma owesifazane njalo ngomzuzu edinga ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa: kisses, hugs, amazwi amnene, ufuna ukuthi njalo ngokomzwelo ukondliwa. Amadoda ayithandi uma owesifazane elambile ukwesekwa kwesibili, ukhononda njalo ngento eyodwa noma enye, "ukukhala," uyathukuthela ngezinto ezincane njengezipikili eziphukile, ukukhala noma ukucasuka nganoma yini nokunye.
Amadoda ayithandi abesifazane abuthakathaka kakhulu nabanokuphepha. Ngokushesha bayathukuthela. Ubulili obuqinile bukhungathekiswa nokuzama njalo ukubuza emicabangweni yabo yangempela, imizwa, nokunye. Isibonelo, "Ucabangani ngesikhatheso? Ucabangani ngakho? "Futhi izinto. Indoda iyesaba lapho owesifazane ezama ukuthatha ngokuphelele isikhala sakhe kanye naso sonke isikhathi. Ufuna ukuba asebenzise isikhathi sakhe sonke samahhala, afune izinto zakhe, izikhwama, amabhokisi, adlulisele umuntu esitelekeni sempahla yakhe. Amadoda athukuthelwa yi-shopping njalo, ikakhulukazi uma kufanele ahambe enkampanini nabesifazane babo. Lokhu kusebenza emacaleni lapho uhambo oluya esitolo lungabhekelwe khona into ethize, kodwa luvele lungenalutho, ngokucatshangelwa kwamafasitela esitolo nokuhamba kusukela esitolo kuya esitolo.
Abesifazane abaningi abaxoxisana nabo bagcina bezithukuthele ngamadoda. Izingxoxo ngaphandle kokuyeka, ikakhulukazi emva komsebenzi wosuku zingadonsa umuntu ngaphandle kwakhe. Akukhona ukuthi le ndoda ayithandi ukukulalela, ngokubona kwayo, imininingwane eminingi engadingeki ingashiywa. Amadoda ayenzondo uma ehlukunyezwa ngezocansi. Lokhu kungalungile futhi kuphazamiseka iphuzu elibuthakathaka. Akekho othanda lokhu. Angithandi amadoda, lapho owesifazane eyakha ubumsulwa, umangalela ngazo zonke izono, lapho "uhlazo olusesibhamu."
Ukukhuluma nemigqabhezana kuphazamisa nengxenye enamandla yabantu. Ngesikhathi abesifazane bathanda ukubuza indoda ngemicabango yabo nemizwa yabo, ngezinye izikhathi bathi izigqoko nezikhumbuzo, benethemba lokuthi lo muntu uqobo uzoqagela konke. Kodwa amadoda angenawo amakhono we-telepathic, ngakho-ke ayathukuthelelwa ukungabi nesivumelwano noma ukudlala ngokuthula. Uma umuntu engaziqageli, owesifazane angase akhubeke, enze iphutha noma amemezele ngokumangalisayo ukuthi akasathandwayo. Ungamtholi indoda, ubeke ukungabaza ngobukhulu bakhe, amakhono akhe. Lokhu kushaya ukuziqhenya nesithunzi sakhe. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungasho ekushiseni kwempikiswano oye wachitha isikhathi sakho kuso, ukuthi i-ex yakho yayikuthile okungcono. Qaphela ngamazwi nakwezitatimende ngisho nangesikhathi sokuhlambalaza, ngoba ungazisola kamuva, futhi emva kwakho konke "leli gama alisona udlunkulu ..." Abanye besifazane emva kwesikhathi sokuphila komndeni baqala ukuphika umuntu ocansini kaningi. Akudingeki ukuba ube nokulungela ngokugcwele ukulwa kwamahora angu-24 ngosuku bese ulala ocansini lokuqala, kodwa kufanele kube nokulinganisela okulinganayo. Uma lo muntu esekhohliwe kakade, lapho elala ngokocansi, lokhu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungabhekana nemiphumela.
Ungakhohlwa ngokubukeka kwakho. Zihlole wena, hlambuluka. Lo muntu empeleni uye wakuthanda wena othandekayo futhi uzilungise kahle. Akekho obizela ukuba ahambe ekhaya ngokugqoka nangokuhlwa, kepha kufanele uzinake, ugcine umzimba nezinwele zihlanzekile futhi zihlanzekile, zilungiswe kahle futhi zihlanzeke, zigqoke izingubo ezintsha zokubonakala kahle, njll. Asikho isidingo sokuminyanisa ngothando lwakho, bonisa ukuthi wesaba ukuthi ungamlahli. Khumbula ukuthi amadoda abazingeli ngandlela-thile.
Noma kunjalo - zihloniphe njalo! Yiba nombono wakho, wazi ukuthi ungakuvikela kanjani, ungazivumeli uhlale phansi entanyeni yakho, uhlazise, usebenze njalo njalo njalo. Khona-ke indoda yakho iyokuhlonipha nawe. Umuntu angakhathala yini owesifazane omthandayo? Ubudlelwane kufanele busebenze bobabili abalingani. Kuyafaneleka ukugcina ilangabi lomndeni, ukuzama ukuqondana, ukuthanda, ukudabuka, ngezinye izikhathi ukuzibeka endaweni yomunye. Thandanani futhi nijabule!