Njengoba kungekho besifazane ofanayo, ngakho-ke akukho ukulingana okulinganayo kwezwe kanye nokweba ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kodwa izigaba eziyinhloko zokukhulelwa kwabesifazane ziyabonakala. Kusukela ekuboneni odokotela, isigaba sokuqala sokukhulelwa sisuka ekukhulelweni kuya ekunyameni kokuhamba. Okokuqala uzizwa ujabule (ngikhulelwe, ngiyajabula!) Noma kumangale (uma ukukhulelwa kwakungalindelwe). Khona-ke kufika umqondo okhungayo wemithwalo yemfanelo, ukukhathazeka - kodwa ngizokuphatha? Kukhona nokuzisola okuncane mayelana nenkululeko eyedlule, ukuthi manje ngeke ucabange nje ngawe.
Futhi-ke kufika umuzwa wokuthi umile ekuqaleni - futhi injabulo, nokubekezela kancane, kanye ne-adrenaline encane! Inqubo ihambe! Ngokuvamile, omama abasazokhathazeka uma konke kulungile nabo, uma bengajabuli ngokushesha ngokuzalwa komntwana esikhathini esizayo? Phela, kukhona inkolelo yokuthi ukuzalwa komama kufanele kubonakale kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Maye, kwenzeka, kunalokho, ngokuthinta amanoveli.
Oomama abalindayo, isimo sengqondo sokuthuthumela ekukhulelweni, uthando lwe-crumb nesifiso sokunakekela ingane esizayo kungabonakalisa ngezikhathi ezahlukene futhi kuthuthuke ngamanani ahlukene. Isikhathi salezi zinguquko singumuntu ngamunye. Owesifazane oye waphupha isikhathi eside ngomama, uvuselela yonke imizuzu yokuzwa okukhethekile. Uzikhathalela ngokwawo futhi kakade kusukela emavikini okuqala okubhekana nalo: umfana noma intombazane? Omunye akacabangi ngomntwana okwamanje. Lapha nawe ukuqonda: kokubili ukulala nokusawoti kudinga ukwethusa, futhi iwayini emcimbini ayisekho. Phakathi namasonto okuqala, injabulo yalokho okwenzekile futhi i-gamut yezohlanganiso ezihlangene nezinguquko empilweni zishintsha njalo ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ungazibeki icala lokunganeliseki kokuqala. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali badinga isikhathi sokujwayele umqondo wendima yabo entsha futhi benze izinguquko ezinhlelweni zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izimo ngesikhathi sokuqwashisa kokukhulelwa zihluke kakhulu. Futhi zingabangela imizwa kamama ezayo ehluke kakhulu, hhayi njalo enhle. Kuzodingeka ucabange ngakho. Ingane engakazalwa akumele ibeke icala lokungalungi kwaleli zwe, ngenxa yokungena "okungenakufika" emhlabeni, ngenxa yinkimbinkimbi yezinto eziphathekayo nezomphakathi zabazali bakhe. Ushiye lo mntwana, ngakho uyayidinga. Ufuna ukuthi abe nempilo? Vumela imicabango ngalokhu futhi ube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Futhi zonke ezinye izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, enye indlela noma enye, zizolungiswa. Ngakho-ke, umama kancane kancane uzofunda ukuzivikela yena kanye nezingane ezizayo kusukela embi kwezwe langaphandle.
Naphezu kokuthi okwesithathu kokukhulelwa, isimo sempilo singase singabi mnandi kakhulu, imicabango edabukisayo noma ephazamisayo evele emasontweni amabili okuqala, "ukuqala" umama wesikhathi esizayo ngokuvamile akukhathazi. Uyaqaphela ukuthi zonke izinkinga ezihlobene nesimo sakhe ziyingxenye yenkambo evamile yenqubo. Futhi-ke iqala ukukhathalela. Into enhle kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi ukucabanga ukuthi ingane ikhona, futhi konke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuba khona "kwakhe". Futhi mayelana ne-toxicosis, siyazi nawe ukuthi lokhu akuyona impilo.
Isigaba sesibili sokukhulelwa sibonakaliswa isimangaliso: uzizwa uhamba ngokuphila okusha. Ukuhamba kokuqala kwe-fetus kusenza siqaphele ukuthi yena, esesesibelethweni, ungumuntu ozimele. Uhlangana, ulala, uphenduke. Kulezi zinsuku ukuthi ukuzwa kwesithandwa somama kanye nokuhlwithwa ngaphambi kokubeletha kwengane yakho futhi kuhlanganisa nekhanda. Ngenyanga yesine, izinga lama-hormone emazingeni egazi. Futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukushaywa komzimba nokungalingani kwengqondo kunciphisa, kuba yinto evamile. Ukuqaphela ukuthi isimo sengqondo esishintsha okwenzeke ku-trimester yokuqala sinokukwazi ukuchaza futhi sokwemvelo, kusiza ukubheka imizwelo yomuntu siqu ngaphandle. Manje, phakathi nomgwaqo, sekuyisikhathi sokuba owesifazane ucabange ngekusasa. Ulungiselela lokhu ngenkuthalo. Uqala ukuqapha impilo yakhe ngokucophelela. Uqala ukuya emfundweni yomama ozayo, uzama ukunamathela kule nkosi kayise. Lapho, owesifazane, noma umbhangqwana oshadile, uhlangabezana nokudideka okufanayo nabazali abesabekayo esikhathini esizayo, bayaqonda ukuthi akubona kuphela abaye "abakhulelwe."
Kodwa-ke, abesifazane basuke benesidingo esikhulu sokunakekelwa nokuhlanganyela kwezihlobo, ikakhulukazi umyeni. Abesifazane abakhulelwe bazwela kakhulu ukukhathazeka nokuthukwa lapho bengaboniswa ubuzwe nothando. Lesi simo sichazwa isidingo sokuhlinzeka imvelo enhle ngokwabo nangomntwana. Hlola ukuthi umndeni uzimisele kangakanani ukuguqula izimpilo zabo emva kokuzalwa kwakhe. Owesifazane angakwazi ukuhlela impilo yakhe kanye nekusasa lomntanakhe isimo esivela ezindabeni zokuphila, amabhayisikobho, izincwadi. Omama babonakala bezenza, bezame ngokwabo izinjabulo nezinsizi ezikhona. Badlala izimo ezihlukahlukene zokucabanga ngokuhlanganyela kwabathandekayo babo. Ukungaqondi noma ukuphikisana ngokuqondile kwamaphuzu okuphikisa okuphikisa kungabangela izingxabano ezinkulu emndenini. Kodwa-ke, izimo ezinjalo zivela njalo futhi aziphazamisi isimo jikelele sempilo nesibindi. Abesifazane abaningi balinganisa le nkathi yokukhulelwa njengesikhathi esimnandi kakhulu sokuphila kwabo - isikhathi sokuzethemba, ukwethembeka nokukhathalela.
Ngalesi sikhathi, futhi kwavela isisa esikhethekile kanye nomqondo wokubambisana, ukuhlanganiswa komama nengane. Kukhona inkhulumomphendvulwano yabo yangaphakathi: "Manje sizobuya nawe, sidle futhi uphumule. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, ungacindezeli kanjalo, sicela. " Emva kwakho konke, umntwana uphonswa, kodwa umama nengane badla ngempela futhi baphumule ndawonye. Kusukela ekuziphatheni komama (ukuthi ngidla isidlo sakusihlwa, ngahamba emgwaqweni, njll) kuxhomeke ekuphileni okusha okuzimele komunye umuntu.
Nokho, lokhu kuhlangene, kuyilapho kuyimvelo ngempela, kungaba mnandi ukuba uqaphele. "Sivele sesivele emavikini angu-25", - ujabulela umama, ekhuluma ngaye nomntwana ngobunye obunye obungabikho. Mhlawumbe, konke okufanayo hhayi "kithi", nezingane ezizayo? Usuvele unezinto eziningi! Futhi empilweni yakho kube khona futhi kuzoba ezinye izinto ezifeziwe. Futhi ngaphambi kokuphila kwakuwukuphila, nakuba manje kungacabangi. Ake sivume ukuthi amasonto angama-25 ngemuva kwengane yakho, futhi unamaviki angu-25 okukhulelwa. Kuyinto enhle ukwabelana nengane yakhe yesikhathi esizayo ukukhula nentuthuko yakhe, ukuzizwa eyingxenye yakhe. Lona igazi lakho, ilanga lakho! Kodwa emva kokuzalwa, usaba umuntu ozimele. Futhi uzilungiselele umama onjalo, ulungile, unempilo, uhlonipha ubuntu bomntwana, uzoba mnandi kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokukhulelwa.
Okwesithathu, ekugcineni wezinyathelo eziyinhloko zokukhulelwa kwabesifazane kuhluke ngokuthi umama olindelekile ulungiselela ukubeletha. Futhi akafuni ukucabanga nganoma yini, ngaphandle kokuhlangana nomntwana. Uvele uzizwa ehlukile, ekhathele ukulinda futhi egqoke umzimba oqinile. Konke kwashintsha ingqondo yakhe, konke ukukhathazeka, ukulungele noma yini, uma nje kungekudala! Inqubo isiphelile, isenzo sokugcina sishiywe. Lokhu kuzalwa - futhi konke kuzobe kuhlelekile.
Kulaba besifazane abathile, ukuhlakanipha komama kubonakala ngemuva kokubeletha. Ukubonakala kwakhe "ukungabikho" phakathi nezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ezedlule akusona isizathu sokuthola "ukwehlisa" kwakhe. Ngomntwana wakhe, unina uzobe edingeka kakhulu, onakekelayo futhi othandekayo. Ake sikhumbule omunye wamaqhawe ochungechunge oluthandwayo "Ubulili Nomuzi". Ebhekene nommeli wakhe, wakhulelwa ngengozi, wachitha zonke izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye enza imisebenzi, izinkinga zezintombi, ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe, ngokuphazamiseka kokubona izinguquko emzimbeni wakhe. Futhi lapho nje ebona umntwana wakhe, waqonda ngokujulile futhi acacile ukuthi yiyiphi isimangaliso, injabulo nomthwalo wemfanelo - ingane!
Futhi kulokhu akukho lutho olungavamile futhi olumangalisayo. Ngesinye owesifazane isizinda se-hormonal sikhula kancane, komunye kungase kube khona ukushayeka. Futhi okwesithathu futhi ngaphandle kokusizwa kwamahomoni konke ukuphila kwakhe amaphupho okuba ngumama, uba ngowakhe, futhi ujabule, njengenye i-heroine yochungechunge olufanayo. Ukukhulelwa yiyona "adventure" engathà sina owesifazane okwenza ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakhe. Futhi kwangathi lezi zinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, ezinjengezinyathelo eziyisishiyagalolunye ezedlule, zikuvumela ukuba uzizwe injabulo yobumama esikhathini esizayo.