Umama ungenye yezinkathi eziyinhloko zokuphila kwabesifazane bonke. Ukuba ngumama kuhle, kodwa ngokushesha noma kamuva, ngaphambi kwabesifazane bonke, ingabe umbuzo othi "uhlakaze" emntwaneni noma ...?
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, wonke owesifazane uphendula lo mbuzo. Abanye besifazane bakhetha umsebenzi, futhi ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ingane ihlale nezinyanga eziningana baqasha umntanami noma bamnike esakhiweni sezinsuku, ngesikhathi esifanayo babuyela emsebenzini futhi ngokuzikhandla kabili baqala ukwenza imali bazivumelise ngokuntuleka kwemali.
Abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, baya emthethweni futhi bazibophe ngokugcwele emntwaneni, bevame ukuzikhohlwa, futhi bavame ukuqala ukubukeka kwabo. Kumele kuqondwe ukuthi ingane, ngisho neyincane, idinga isikhathi sayo, esingayisebenzisa yedwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingaqondakala kanjani, ngoba izingane, abazali abazihlonipha kakhulu futhi bezibeka phakathi kwezinto zokuphila kwazo, ngokuvamile zikhula zingazimele.
Kukhona ukhetho lwesithathu - laba bangabesifazane abazami nje ukuthi babe omama abahle, kodwa futhi bazidle ngokwabo ngesikhathi esifanayo endaweni ethile, njengombuso, abanakho okuningi, kodwa kubonakala, okubaluleke kakhulu - ungabheki kulezi zimbini ukuqala.
Umqondo wecala ngaphambi kwengane ngokushesha noma kamuva kuvela kuwo wonke umama, ngisho nalowo ozinikezele ngokuphelele kuye. Ngelutho akazange amamukele, akazange amukele, akhokhe isikhathi esincane, njll. ngakho-ke kusukela emizwa yecala ngaphambi kwengane akekho omzimba futhi ngezinye izikhathi leli vinini aliyona ingqondo.
Umqondo wecala luhlobo lombonakaliso lokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle, kudala isinyathelo (ukumisa isimo sokukhonkolo, ukulungisa noma ukuqala ukwenza ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele). Uma umuntu elungisa isimo esicabanga ukuthi asiyiphutha, khona-ke icala licala. Uma isimo sihluke, khona-ke icala licala. Umqondo wecala ukhula futhi uphenduka isishayo, inqubo engenamsebenzi yokuzidla, okuholela engenzi lutho oluyakhayo.
Umqondo wecala lokubeletha unecala lokunciphisa umzimba futhi unciphisa umuzwa wenjabulo yobazali.
Lo mzwa uvela emva kokubeletha futhi uvame ukufudumala izihlobo, ukuhlambalaza umama osandula ukungahambisani kahle nezibopho zakhe zomama.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela lo mzwa bese uqala ukulwa nawo, ngoba ubuhlungu ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Ukuze unqobe imizwa yecala phambi kwengane, kukwanele ukuzivuma nje ekungaphelelweni kwakho futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuwamukela. Maye, omama abahle abakho futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa ungaba umama, umama omuhle. Kufanele uvumele ukuthi wamukele iphutha. Udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungathethelela kanjani abanye kuphela, kodwa futhi ngokwakho kuqala. Wonke umama unezikhathi lapho ehla. Uma lokhu sekuvele kwenzeke, khona-ke udinga ukuthola amandla okuxolisa kwengane.
Khumbula ukuthi ingane akudingeki ichithe isikhathi esiningi, indima esemqoka lapha ukuthi usebenza kanjani naye manje. Akunandaba ukuthi kungamahora ambalwa noma imizuzwana embalwa, kungcono mayelana nekhwalithi. Uma ungumama osebenzayo, kuzomele uchaze ingane ukuthi umatasa futhi uzokwazi ukumnika isikhathi kamuva. Ngakho-ke uzofundisa ingane ukuthi ikwazi kanjani ukuphatha isikhathi ngokufanele, futhi lokhu kuyoba usizo kakhulu esikhathini esizayo. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi izingane ezikhulele emndenini lapho umama asebenza khona futhi akazange anikeze abantwana isikhathi esiningi, kodwa isikhathi esanikezwa izingane sasinekhwalithi futhi sigcwele, cishe sasingenandaba nezingane futhi sakhula ngokugcwele.