Ezimweni eziningi, isikhulu esihle emafilimu ngothando sicebile njalo. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ukuthanda abacebile kulula kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazi lapho bangathola khona isikhulu esihle nesiphumelelayo. Izigidi zabantu zihlakaniphile futhi ziqinile, azikwazi ukuthungathwa. Zikhethele wena, yini oyifunayo - ukuhlala nomlandi futhi umthande njengomlingani osemthethweni? Noma uhlala nje ngaphandle kwesimo somfazi?
Okokuqala, ake sichaze lokho okucebile kusho kuwe? Ngempela, kumuntu, ukuchuma okuvamile imoto yangaphandle, igumbi lamakamelo amathathu futhi elihloniphekile, lokhu sekuvele kucebile. Kwabanye, indlu yokuhlala, i-yacht nezindiza zibaluleke kakhulu. Eqinisweni, akukho okungeke kwenzeke, futhi akunzima ukunqoba umzukulu. Kusadingeka ukuthi uqale uqonde ukuthi ufuna uthando ngemingcele ethile noma ungakwazi futhi ngaphandle kothando.
Izihloko eziningi kakhulu ngesihloko ukuthi amadoda athande abathandekayo ukuthi ubuhle abubalulekile. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akulona iqiniso.
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi izimfanelo zobuhle besifazane - lokhu kuyimodeli. Kodwa-ke, amadoda avame ukukhetha ama-photomodeels, kanye non-models kusukela kulesi sigaba. Uyini umehluko? Amamodeli we-podium aphakeme futhi ancane, ngokuvamile anezinga lesifuba se-zero. Futhi ama-photomodeli anamafomu amahle kakhulu, anezinga eliphakeme. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama-photomodels angaba nokukhula okuphansi. Ngokuvamile, amadoda akhetha abesifazane abanezinwele ezinde, kodwa kukhona nabathandi abanezinwele ezimfushane.
Ikhono lokuzithoba libaluleke kakhulu. Akunakutsho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuba umuntu aqiniseke futhi angenasici, abantu abathobekile abathulile bayakhanga. Nokho, akukhona ngokuziphatha. Kubalulekile ukunamathela ngesithunzi, hhayi ukuzungeze intamo yomholo, kholwa kimi, sekukhona kakade okuningi kakade. Ngisho noma ngabe ukukhathazeka kwavutha phakathi kwakho nomzuzu wokuqala, futhi usuvele ukhohliwe ngesifiso sokushada, kufanelekile ukugcina nokulahla. Yisho ukuthi iphikisana nemigomo yakho.
Yiba kahle. Akudingeki ukuba uhlaziye, udlale "umkhulumeli ophuzile" noma udlale ngothando wonke isivumelwano. Yiqiniso, ukuncintisana okunempilo ngeke kulimaze, kodwa kudingeka uqonde ukuthi awudingi intombazane echithekile. Ungazakheli kuqala futhi uzivimbele, ikakhulukazi uma ungenjalo. Zama ukuba ngokwakho, imfihlakalo encane, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uvule. Lalela wonke amazwi e-iostroumno parry yakhe ngesikhathi.
I-psychology yabantu abacebile ihlukile kancane. Yiqiniso, lokhu kungukuthi uma umuntu ecabanga ukuthi ucebile. Njengomthetho, azikho izinkinga ekuthengeni kwanoma yini oyithandayo noma ngokukhohlisa kwamantombazane. Noma, uma usuhoxisiwe kakhulu futhi ungenakufinyeleleka, khona-ke unquma ukuthi lezi zingoma zithandwa. Uma, noma kunjalo, usuvele ube nobuhlobo, khona-ke uziphathe njengentombazane eyithandayo.
Indoda, ikakhulukazi eyicebile, ithatha ukuthi uzoba nakho konke okusemandleni, kanye nomfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo, kuhlanganise. Uzungezile ngezinto ezinhle futhi ezinokwethenjelwa, amathoyizi, kanye nabantu abahlakaniphile. Zama ukujabulisa abangane bakhe, ngokuqinisekile bayomtshela futhi bamnike iseluleko ngokukhohlisa.
Ubuhlobo bomakethe emkhakheni wothando kusasele. Yebo, kukhona izinyanga ezingathandeki kakhulu ezingenangqondo futhi ziphatha abesifazane njengamathoyizi alandelayo. Ungavumeli ukuthi kwenzeke, kungumqondo wakho. Ufuna ukubonwa nokuhlonishwa. Uma evumela ukuthi angenangqondo noma enesihluku, ungesabi ukuhamba. Yithi: "Akujabulisi ukulalela lokhu" bese ushiya. Vele ungadabuki futhi ungakhali.
Qinisekisa ukuzihlakulela. Akudingeki nje ukuthi uhlanganyele emidlalweni futhi ulondoloze isibalo sakho esimweni esihle, kodwa futhi ube nesidingo. Ngenhlanhla kulabo abangathandi ukufunda, i-erudition ikude nolwazi. Ukwaziswa ukuqwashisa, ingqondo ephilayo nokubuza. Funda amaphephandaba ezemidlalo, uqaphele isimo sezombangazwe nezomnotho, bese ulandela izindaba zakamuva. Ungakhohlwa ukuhlala wesifazane onamafutha.
Kunconywa, yiqiniso, ukufuna umyeni wezigidi ezincane. Uma uneminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu, kukhona ingane, kanti amathuba amancane kakhulu. Nakuba, ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi owesifazane onolwazi futhi ohlakaniphile uthatha indoda kude nentombazane encane, engasebenzi. Izimo zihlukile, uma ubeka umgomo, qiniseka ukuthi unayo.
Ngingaphi lapho ngithola khona umuntu-mhlanga. Okokuqala, kunamaqembu ahlukahlukene kanye nemiphakathi eyithakazelisayo. Izigidi zithatha izindawo ze-VIP emidlalweni yezinkundla zezemidlalo zezemidlalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu angenza sengathi abe intatheli futhi eze enkulumweni yocwaningo mayelana nokuthi umuntu uphumelele kanjani impumelelo. Ngemuva kokuxoxisana, babatshele ukuthi bayabonga ukuthi abakaze babone indoda enomdla. Uma unikezwa ukuba uhlangane, uvumelekile ukuba udlala ngothando, isibonelo: "Ngisebenza kanzima uma nginesikhathi, ngizofika" futhi ngishiye inombolo yami yocingo.
Njengenye yezinketho ezingavamile kakhulu: amapaki okuzijabulisa. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi iningi lezigidi zabantu lihlukanisile, okusho ukuthi banezingane. Ngezinsuku zezinsuku nengane yakhe, umkakhe ohlala naye uhlala, futhi ngezimpelasonto, izigidigidi zithwala izingane zabo kunina, bese zizitholela ukuzijabulisa nazo zonke izici ezikhangayo. Uma usuvele wazi ukuthi ubani ozokwenyuka, ungahle uhlele imihlangano eminingana engahleliwe. Ngokushesha indoda kufanele icabange ukuthi lokhu akulona ngengozi, kodwa kuphelile.
Ungacabangi ukuthi lezi zinkulungwane ziyiziwula. Ukuhlambalaza umbuso awukwazi wonke umuntu, kodwa umfana onomlingani oqinile nomqondo oguquguqukayo. Ngenxa yalokho, akudingekile ukuba enze isiwula kuye. Ungathembeka, usho ukuthi uyamthanda.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngemali. Izigidi ziyakuthandwa uma zihlonishwa ngemali engenayo. Ngakho zama njalo ukuzikhokhela, ungathathi imali itekisi, ungakhulumi ngobumpofu bakho, ungasho ukuthi uthatha amajazi omvu we-sable imali engadingekile. Zama konke okuncane ukuze ukhulume ngemali, kuze kube sekugcineni ungamvumeli ukuthi achithe kuwe. Ngitshele ukuthi ufuna ukufeza konke ukuze uzihloniphe, noma ngabe umgomo wakho ukulala emalangeni onke unyaka wonke futhi ungenzi lutho.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izigidi zamadoda akuzona abathintekayo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, zithatha ukonga futhi zithengisa, kodwa kufanele zicacise ukuthi ngeke uchithe izigidi zayo, kuphela usizo lokuphindaphinda.
Qinisekisa ukuthola ukuthi yini ayithandayo. Ngokuvamile, izithakazelo zezigidi zabantu zifana ncamashi. Bonke bayathanda igalofu, izimoto ezibizayo, ukudla okumnandi, ezemidlalo. Zama ukuthola ukuthi yini oyithandayo ngomholo wakho, mbuze ukuthi ujabulela nokuthi yini ebheka into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwakhe.
Uma wenza konke okulungile, uzobe usheshe uthole isimo sensizwa esemthethweni. Ukugcina umzuzwana kancane kunzima, kodwa kungenzeka. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyakunika noma cha, kuxhomeke kuwe kuphela.