Yini ebaluleke kakhulu kubambisene, isazi sezengqondo


Iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo noma amazwana akhe ahlanzekile, angabonakali ngokuvamile abaluleke kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi imibhangqwana ididekile ebuhlotsheni ukuthi ekugcineni igqume ukuya kumqondo wezengqondo zomndeni. Kancane kancane, igama ngezwi, lembula iqiniso lokuthi into esemqoka emndenini ubambiswano, isazi sengqondo sikhombisa indlela ezinye izinhlobo zobuhlobo eziphila ngayo ngekhulu elidlule.

Amadoda kufanele abheke ukuthi sisebenza kakade nabo abalinganayo. Okubalulekile ngokubambisana yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

Kwakujwayele ukuba yi-serfs nabesifazane - kubi kakhulu kunezinyoka. Manje sivunyelwe ukuba nombono wethu, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, sinezindima zethu, ngaphandle kwalezo esizidlalayo emndenini. Asibona nje umama nabafazi kuphela, kodwa futhi nabachwepheshe bezinga eliphezulu noma umane - umphefumulo wehhovisi :) Unamandla futhi unobuthakathaka, unomusa futhi unonya - kodwa usazimele, uyakwazi ukusinda ngaphandle komuntu, uma kungekho ezinye izinketho, ngaphandle kokugqilazwa ekhaya .

Ubuphi ubudlelwane "obungabambisene naye" buvelaphi?

Izazi zengqondo ziyazi ukuthi isizukulwane esilandelayo sokulwa kwamadoda sinzima kakhulu. Abalimi bebancane, babenenani elikhethekile. Lokhu kwakuboniswa ikakhulukazi emadodaneni, ngokuzungezwe ngokoqobo nokunakekelwa komama. Yileyo ndlela abafazi abayidlala ngayo "umama".

Yebo, kanti namanje kukhona imibono emibili eyingozi kakhulu - noma indoda-ubaba, i-getter, umhloli, owenza yonke imibuzo, noma indodana yendodana, okudingeka ilungiswe-iyalondolozwa futhi ifundiswe ukuze ilandelwe.

Kulesi simo, bobabili kanye nabanye besifazane bakhuthazwa ngokukhululekile ukuba babe nendima yesibili noma yokuqala. "Abadliwayo" bazwela futhi bawaqonde. Khumbula ukuthi kaningi kangakanani wezwa inkulumo ethi "Nginabantwana ababili - indoda nendodana." Awupheki i-pelmeni futhi akahlanze izingubo zakhe?

Futhi bayabukela "amadodakazi asekhaya" futhi bawabeke njengesibonelo - lapha, bathi, lo wesifazane! Iminyaka engamashumi amabili futhi angazi ukuthi kufanele ukhokhele indawo yokuhlala! Ungasho ukuthi kulula kumadoda abo. Futhi "uma kwenzeka" owesifazane engeyona eyodwa nje - uqobo uphonswa ohlangothini lokuphila.

Ungakha kanjani ubuhlobo obuphilile, obuqinile nolwanamuhla?

O, ukubambisana, ikakhulukazi ezimweni zethu - kuyinto yonke yobuciko. Inkondlo, ukucacisa. Futhi ngokuzumayo, owesifazane "ubona", ufuna "ihlombe elithembekile" noma ngisho nemisebenzi ehlukaniswe isigamu. Futhi lapha - "umyeni wendlu uhlezi, udlala isiginci ...", njengalokhu ku-monologue we-satirist Zhvanetsky ...

Okubaluleke kakhulu ekubambisaneni, isazi sezengqondo sizosho ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kunemibandela eminingi ekhomba ukuthi lolu hlobo lobuhlobo. Futhi into yokuqala efika engqondweni - ukulinganisela okuphelele - ngeshwa, ayihambisani kahle. Ukulingana "kukho konke" kuyisibonelo sokulwa nobuhlobo bobudlelwane. Kodwa ukuxhasana, usizo oluhlanganyelana, usizo oluhlanganyelwe kanye nokuqonda yizona eziyisisekelo kakhulu ebuhlotsheni obambisene phakathi komndeni.

Asilingani futhi asilingani

Ngeshwa, ukuchaza ukuthi into esemqoka ngokubambisana, izazi ze-psychologists ziphazamisa ... ubufazi. Ekubunjweni komuntu ohlangene naye, wadlala indima, futhi uMoor owawenza lo msebenzi, angashiya. Ngoba esikhundleni sokulingana kuvela uhlobo lokuhleka usulu - ukudonsa ingubo phezu kwakho kanye "nokulinganisa" impumelelo.

Kodwa amadoda ala "entanyeni" anele ngokwanele emsebenzini! Futhi lapha ekhaya - okufanayo!

Amadoda nabesifazane bahluke ngokuphelele. Baxhumana ngezindlela ezahlukene nangemigomo ehlukile. Futhi ukuhlukanisa "emigqeni" ehlukile akuyona into enengqondo, ngoba sikhuluma ngomunye uhlobo lwephrojekthi jikelele, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu - umndeni. Ngakho-ke, into esemqoka ekubambisaneni - ungahambi kwesazi sengqondo - umphakathi.

Ukubambisana kuhlangene nomgomo ovamile. Ngisho noma owesifazane ehlezi enqumweni enezingane ezintathu, futhi umyeni wakhe uthola konke. Futhi uhlambalaza "Mina, wena, oglovodov, ukondla" akufanele kube - uma kuphela isinqumo sokuthola ingxenye yesithathu yayihlangene futhi iyacatshangelwa.

Kusukela ngamunye ngokusho kwamakhono akhe ...

Iphuzu elilandelayo elibalulekile ukuhlukaniswa komthwalo wemfanelo. Ngemuva kokuqonda ukuhlukana kocansi (uyaqonda ibalazwe, yena - ngesidla emgwaqeni) kuzodingeka abelane ngombono. Emva kwakho konke, awufuni ukuthola esitsheni amapuleti angatshitshiweyo nesigamu - yilowo nalowo kanye nengane encane ...

Ukuze uhlanganyele ngemithwalo yemithwalo yemfanelo, udinga ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi ubani owenza okungcono, onokuphi okufisayo. Mhlawumbe umfazi, ophinde (ocabanga ukuthi) uhlezi ekubelethweni, uphumelela kakhulu emibhalweni yokudala. Futhi ukumphazamisa ekubhaliseni i-dollar eyizigidigidi zeHarry Potter akuyona into enengqondo.

Noma ufuna indoda yakhe ibethe amathikithi nsuku zonke, uma ithatha "umsebenzi wakhe wesikole" emsebenzini - ngoba kusasa "ingadlala" futhi ingenise imali hhayi kumuntu oyedwa wokuhlanza.

Ukuzwa omunye nomunye

Ukuze "umsebenzi we-crank" umsebenzi obuncane ovela endaweni yokugcina yomsebenzi wethu, kuzodingeka sifunde ukuzwa omunye nomunye. Ungalaleli kuphela ekupheleni kosuku - kodwa ngemibuzo eqondile noma eqondile ukuthola ukuthi yini oshade naye ayifunayo. Ukuze ukwazi ukuziveza.

Futhi ukuthi lokhu "ukuphazamiseka" nokungqubuzana okungenakugwemeka kwezithakazelo akuzange kube yi-swara, kuzodingeka kuthukume. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuze uzihlanganise ndawonye - ngisho noma imizwelo ishaya phezu komngcele - futhi ungalimazi ngisho nakakhulu, kodwa ulalele.

Uma kudingekile - ukulalela. Uma kusiza, gcizelela ngokwakho. Ukungathinti noma ukuthuka umlingani.

Ngamunye wethu ungumuntu!

Futhi yilokhu okulandelayo okukhohliwe emndenini. Bonke basondelene kakhulu, bajwayele futhi bajwayele - kuwo wonke ama-molecule wokugcina ngakwesokunxele, okuyinto enzima ukuyithatha ngokungathí sina. Sasibonana kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezimo - ekuguleni nasempilweni, sabona amaphutha omunye nomunye, futhi, siyaqonda ukuthi thina ngokwethu asikho isono ...

Ukuzikhohlisa, ukuphazamiseka, izinqubo ezisemthethweni nendlela yokuphila - konke lokhu kungakuvimbela ukuba ungaboni komunye umuntu onenhlamvu enkulu. Ngakho, ukuvimbela ukuthatha ngokungathí sina, njengomlingani ogcwele nolinganayo. Vumela ongakwazi ukwazi ukuthi ihembe lakhe isikhathi sokugeza ...