Kusukela ekuziphatheni okukhulu kwemizwelo emibi, ungenza inombolo enkulu yamaphutha bese uqothula izinkuni. Into yokuqala efika engqondweni ngumuntu ohlukumeza - ukwephula ubuhlobo.
Cabanga ngezizathu zokuhlukunyezwa, bese uzama ukuthola indlela yokukhipha ekukhonzeni komlingani wakhe.
Uthando oludlule. Izazi zengqondo zithi uthando olushiyiwe yisona sizathu esiyinhloko esenza ukuthi abalingani benze ukuhlukumezeka. Kulesi simo, kungcono ukukhuluma ngobuqotho nomlingani wakho, thola ukuthi kwenzekani phakathi kwakho futhi unqume ukuthi uzokwenzani ngokulandelayo. Kodwa, njengomthetho, izinyunyana ezinjalo zizobhujiswa.
Izinkinga phakathi kwabalingani . Ukuvela kwezinkinga ebuhlotsheni kuvame ukuholela ekuhlaseleni. Uma lo mlingani eshintsha, lokhu akusho ukuthi unemizwa ngawe. Ukukhohlakele, kuye, kuyindlela eyingqayizivele yokuxazulula izinkinga zakho. Isibonelo, oshade naye uzwa sengathi usuke kude naye, uyeka ukumlalela. Ubona indlela eyodwa yokuphuma - ukulalela isisebenzi sakhe. Okumangalisa ukuthi, kodwa ezimweni ezinjalo, ukuhlubuka ngokuvamile kuyisici esibangela lo mbhangqwana ndawonye futhi ubophe ubuhlobo.
Izinkinga zangaphakathi nomlingani . Izinkinga zingahlukahluka kakhulu.
Isibonelo, ukungafuni ubuhlobo obunzima. Uma umlingani ezwa ukuthi ubuhlobo buya enkundleni entsha, engathà sina, ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki kwangaphakathi kuvuka kuye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuvukela umbuso akuyitholi injabulo, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuhlukunyezwa kuphela.
Ukungavikeleki ngokwayo, futhi, kushukumisela abantu ukuba benze ukuhlukumezeka. Ukushintsha abalingani bobulili nokushintsha othandekayo, lo mlingani uzama ukwandisa ukuzethemba kwakhe.
Umbono ofakiwe. "Indoda kumele ibe nomfazi ngaphezu komkakhe, nenkosikazi" noma "uma owesifazane enenhloko, kumele abe nomthandi." Uma umuntu ephila futhi enza ngokuthembela embonweni womphakathi, futhi ukhuluma ngomzwelo wokungathembeki kuye.
Izizathu zokuthi kungani umlingani exazulula ukuhlukumezeka kungaba okuhlukile. Kodwa-ke, kanjani ukungavumelani ukushintsha nokugcina ubuhlobo?
Ukuqala kokuqala ukukhwabanisa yisifiso sokuqeda ubudlelwane. Kodwa, uma usathandana, kudingeka ufune izindlela zokugwema imiphumela emibi.
Uma ukukhwabanisa, noma kunjalo kwenzeka, izazi zengqondo ziluleka ukuba zilinde isikhathi esithile, lapho imizwa ixazululwa, futhi ungabheka ngokucophelela isimo. Qonda ukuthi bobabili abalingani bahlupheka ngokukhashelwa. Udinga ingxoxo, kepha uma wena ungaxazululi inkinga, xhumana nochwepheshe.
Ukuze ungahambisani nokushintsha umlingani, khumbula ukuthi amadoda adinga ubulili nokwaneliseka. Ngeke agcwale i-borscht ne-pelmeni.
Yiba nesithakazelo kulokho okuthandwa ngumlingani wakho. Uma ekubiza ukuthi udoba, ke ungenqabe. Ukuzilibazisa okuhlangene kuseduze kakhulu. Ungafaki imikhuba yakho kubantu. Amadoda athambekele ekuvikeleni isikhala sabo lapho umuntu engenelela ezingcwele.
Buka ukubukeka kwakho. Owesifazane omuhle - ubangela isifiso somuntu nesithakazelo.
Ungabi umfazi - i-saw. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umuntu aqaphele ukuthi ikhaya lakhe liyinqaba yakhe. Lapho ebuyela ekhaya, akafuni ukuhlukunyezwa. Ngokuphambene nalokho, indoda izothumela owesifazane uma ihlangana naye ngokumomotheka nenjabulo njalo.
Futhi, ekugcineni, ukudikibala ushintsho noma ukugwema ukuhlukunyezwa nhlobo, madodakazikazi abathandekayo, ziqhenye futhi zihloniphe amadoda akho!