Akekho owesifazane ozokwazi ukuphila impilo yakhe ngaphandle komuntu, ngokuyisisekelo, njengoba nje engenaye. Kodwa akubona bonke abesifazane abangaqhosha ngokuba nomuntu onjalo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze angabi nje kuphela eduze kwakho, kodwa futhi wakuthanda kakhulu, udinga ukuqonda indlela yokwenza umuntu ajabule. Phela, uma nje ejabula, nawe uzoba njalo.
Iningi lesigamu esiphezulu lisho ukuthi umsebenzi ophumelelayo, ubulili obuhle kakhulu, kanti-ke, ubhiya - lezi yizintambo ezintathu eziyiqiniso lapho zonke izinjabulo zabo zesilisa zakhiwa khona. Kodwa isitatimende esinjalo siyiqiniso? Noma ingabe kunjalo namanje lokho umuntu akudinga ngempela injabulo, akunjalo? Qonda ukuthi impendulo yombuzo obhekwe mayelana nenjabulo yesilisa ingumxazululo wenkinga yenjabulo yomuntu. Ngempela, ubulili obuqinile, njengabo bonke abantu, buncike ekucindezelekeni, ikakhulukazi, njengabesifazane ngokwabo. Nazi nje imithombo yalezi zindawo ezihlukumezekile zihluke kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akenzi njalo. Ngokuqinisekile isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu ukucindezeleka besilisa kungukuntuleka kwemali, kanye nokunganeliseki ngokobulili. Nokho, lezi akuzona izinkinga kuphela zamadoda ethu. Eqinisweni, kunezindlela eziningana ezingasiza ukuguqula umthandi wakho ukuba abe nombono omuhle futhi wenze umuntu ajabule kakhulu.
Esikhundleni semali. Abasosayensi abaningi baseNgilandi, ngenxa yezifundo, bakwazi ukufakazela ukuthi umsebenzi olala embhedeni nowesifazane ushintsha nge-akhawunti yasebhange. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngoba ubulili obuqinile kakhulu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube umthengi, futhi ube nesigxobo esikhulu. Nakuba ukuhlolwa okunjalo kubonisile ukuthi amadoda amaningi aphila ngokuzikhandla ngokobulili angenasasa kakhulu, ajabule kunalabo abanemali ephezulu kakhulu. Njengoba ubulili nsuku zonke kungenye yezindlela eziqinisekile zokuzijabulisa, cishe, noma yimuphi umuntu. Ungazami ukusungula noma yimuphi umshini ongenayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, laba ososayensi abaye bathola ukuthi ukuhlukahluka okunjalo akukwazi neze ukufana nokuphila kocansi okujabulisayo, okuphumelelayo. Ngempela, ngokuphambene nalokho, imibhangqwana engaba njalo ethanda izinto ezifanayo iyajabula kakhulu. Njengoba bonke banelisekile futhi bathanda.
Ukudumisa abajwayelene nabo . Abesifazane abaningi bacabanga ukuthi kungani amadoda abo ejwayele ukuphindaphinda ezindabeni zabo zezenzo, bese ephindaphinda izikhathi eziyishumi indaba efanayo? Yebo, nje umthandi wakho ufuna ukuzwa kusuka kuwe ekuphenduleni indaba yakhe udumo lwempumelelo yakhe, amakhono. Phela, abameleli bobulili obunamandla kakhulu bathanda kakhulu ukuncoma, kanye nabamele abesilisa ababuthakathaka. Kungcono ukukhumbula izenzo zakhe ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngoba umuntu angakhetha enye yezinketho ukuze enze othandekayo wakho ajabule. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umuntu akufanele akhulume nhlobo ngokuncoma okungenalutho, udinga nje ukumdumisa ngezinye izikhonkwane, izenzo zangempela. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, unganikeza indumiso ngesidlo esiphekiwe noma izitsha zokugeza, noma isipho sonyaka omusha. Ngemuva kwakho konke, nazo zonke izimo ezilungele ukuguqulwa kubalulekile ukuvumela othandekayo wakho azi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani. Futhi ukudumisa kungaba isifiso sokungabi yedwa, kungcono ngisho nasemphakathini wabangane bakho.
Ezemidlalo ndawonye. Ungabona indoda ejabule futhi ngosizo lokuqeqeshwa kwezemidlalo jikelele. Phela, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, uma umuntu engathokozi, kungase kusho ukuthi ngokuqinisekile uyakhathazeka okuthile. Imisebenzi yezemidlalo enjalo inganciphisa kakhulu ukukhathazeka kwakhe, futhi izifundo ezisezinkampanini ngeke zibe nzima kakhulu. Ngakho ngenxa yokuzikhandla ngokomzimba umzimba nomqondo ungahle uphumule, kanti ezinye izinhlungu zokucindezeleka ngokomzimba nazo zixoshwa emzimbeni. Yebo, indlela engcono kakhulu yokusindisa isigamu sakho esithandekayo ekukhathazeka kuyoba ikhono lokuphambanisa imisipha. Futhi imisipha enamandla iphakamisa ukuzihlonipha kwakhe. Futhi, indoda ikwazi ukuzwa ukulawula phezu kwayo yonke into, futhi lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwayo yonke.
Sibhekana nabangane . Masiqaphele ukuthi emadodeni, abangani babhekwa njengokuzivikela okungcwele, okungenakuxoxwa nganoma iyiphi indlela, futhi nakakhulu ukugxeka. Nakuba abangane bangaba nomphumela omubi kakhulu kumuntu wakho. Ngakho-ke uprofesa othile wezenhlalakahle eHarvard University wathi ukukhulumisana nomngane kungenza indoda yakho ixhomeke kuye. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukubhema, nokudakwa, ngisho nokukhuluphala kudluliselwa, cishe, konke ngokusebenzisa ukuxhumana. Futhi ukukhuluma nesoka nabangani bakhe abangashadile kunganciphisa umuzwa wenjabulo cishe ngo-17%. Ngakho ukuxhumana nabangani abagcwele kungandisa amathuba okuvela kwamakhilogremu angadingekile, okungadingekile ngo-57%.
Yondla ukudla okunempilo . Ngokushesha, ososayensi bakwazi ukuthola ukuthi akuzona zonke ukudla okungenza indoda yakho ijabule. Ngokuqondile, ohlwini lwemikhiqizo enhle ngalokhu, imikhiqizo ingabandakanya izinhlanzi ezinamafutha nobisi, ubhanana nenkomo, kanye nesipinashi kanye namanothi. Futhi ukufakwa kwale mikhiqizo ekudleni akukona nje ukujabulisa umuntu, kodwa futhi kuzokwenza ukuthi azincindezeleke. Phela, ubisi luqukethe amaminerali athile, linciphisa kakhulu ukucindezeleka. Futhi ama-fatty acids, akhona futhi aqukethwe ezinhlanzi, angasusa isimo sengqondo esibi. Futhi phawula ukuthi ngenxa yobhanana, emzimbeni wakhe, i-hormone ethile ye-melatonin, ikakhulukazi, futhi iyabangela ukuthula kwengqondo, ikhiqizwa. Ingxube yamaprotheni kwamanye amafutha we-peanut kusiza ngisho nokugxila. Inyama, inyama yenkomo, kanye nesipinashi, inamavithamini acebile eqenjini elidingekayo B, futhi linesimbi ne-zinc.
Gqoka kahle . Izembatho ezinjalo zinika umuntu wakho ukuzethemba, ngokuyisisekelo, kanye nabesifazane. Futhi amantombazane, ngisho namadoda ahloniphekile angazizwa engakhululekile kakhulu, ehlala egqokweni elibiziwe eduze kwezingubo ezibulalayo kakhulu. Yingakho abathandekayo bazodinga ukugqoka, njll. mnike cishe zonke iholide ihembe elihle, noma i-sweater noma izicathulo. Kodwa kusengaphambili kusadingeka ukuthola konke, okungukuthi mayelana nokunambitheka kwawo, ngokungenjalo kungenokwenzeka esikhundleni sokubonga nje ukugijimela. Kodwa akufanele nanini uthenge izinto ezingcolile. Phela, amadoda abathandi ukukhokha ukunakwa okunye emphakathini. Yebo, futhi obomvu, ne-pink, ne-lilac, noma kunjalo, neminye imibala ye-girlish - hhayi izintandokazi zabo.
Sinikeza izipho. Ucwaningo oluningi lwaluqhutshwa ikakhulukazi kwi-intanethi, bakwazi ukuthola ukuthi cishe bonke abafana benza izipho cishe izikhathi ezimbili, uma kuqhathaniswa namantombazane. Nakuba izipho zabo zibiza kakhulu, kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi, zishaya umgomo. Kodwa kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi ekusebenzeni amadoda ethu ngokuvamile athola kokubili Unyaka Omusha nosuku luka-Valentine, kanye noFebhuwari 23, cishe okufanayo, njll. izindlu zangasese, noma izimonyo. Kungcono ukubuza umthandi wakhe ngesipho ayifunayo. Kungahle kube ngumangala ongalindelekile, kodwa imali nemisipha ngeke isetshenziswe.
Yiba oqotho, uphathe indoda yakho ngothando lwakho lonke. Khona-ke ngeke kudingekile ukuphazamisa ngalokho okunye okumelwe ukwenze ukuze wenze kube injabulo.