Enye yezindlela ezingavamile - ukutshela konke efonini noma ukulahla i-SMS futhi ungathokozi ukusabela komuntu othandekayo, injabulo yozwela. Kodwa izindaba zokukhulelwa zingumlando wendaba yakho yothando futhi kufanele uhambe ngayo ikakhulukazi.
Indlela ejwayelekile, okuzosiza ukutshela othandekayo mayelana nokukhulelwa, - ukulinda umyeni emsebenzini futhi ngobuqotho ukubeka konke okusemandleni. Yiqiniso, kumele kuqala ulungiselele kancane, kuhle, okungenani uhlale e-sofa ekhululekile. Futhi ... ungafihli imizwelo yakho, uveze injabulo yakho, ukuze othandekayo ngokushesha eze kuye.
Uma umuntu wakho engalindelekile, uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi uyasabela kanjani, zama ukuqala kusuka kude. Isibonelo, ukukhononda nge-nausea, tshela ngokubambezeleka, ekugcineni, ucabange: ingabe ukhulelwe? Lungiselela ngakho-ke oyintandokazi yakho izinsuku ezimbalwa, tshela ukuthi kuhle kangakanani ukukhulisa umntwana, futhi ngemva kwesonto uzokwazi ukumtshela ukuthi maduze uzoba ngubaba.
Okuhlukile "kokulungiswa" kwezindaba ezimangalisa kuyilungiselelo lothando. Zama ukumema othandekayo wakho ukuba adle ngekhandlela. Akukhathaleki ukuthi kwenzekani: ekhaya noma endaweni yokudlela, into eyinhloko ukuthi umkhathi awunamathele futhi unomusa.
Uma ungumama ongeyena othandana naye, kodwa okwedlulele, zama ukutshela othandekayo wakho ngokukhulelwa ngesikhathi esesemva kwesondo. Ngokuqinisekile uzothola imizwelo eqinile kunazo zonke ezivela eziphuthumayo ze-braking, ngisho noma i-bumper ingaphambi kwemoto.
Ukuze uvimbele ukwesaba komyeni wakhe manje ukuthi uzoya ngemuva, ungabonisa ukuthi akusilo icala, ugqoke izingubo zangaphansi zokukhohlisa, futhi utshele othandekayo ngokukhulelwa esimweni esiseduze kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kwabanye besifazane, lezi zindaba zenza isiphepho esinjalo kangangokuthi bona nabalingani babo badinga ukulala ngokushesha.
Lena yingxenye encane yeseluleko esinganikezwa omama esizayo. Uma ufuna umzuzwana wenjabulo eyingqayizivele ukuba uhlale enkumbulo yakho isikhathi eside, bonisa i-fantasy. Ngokwesibonelo, kungani ungamniki umyeni wami iholide elihle ngeposi elilandelayo ngokubhala: "Ngokushesha uzoba ubaba" - lokhu kuyoba isipho esingcono kakhulu kuye. Esikhundleni sekhadi leposi, ungathumela i-telegram yalolu hlobo - umphumela uzoba umxhwele nakakhulu.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto encane futhi eqondile, ungamnika isipho ngokusikisela: i-rattle noma ibhodlela labantwana. Ukubonakaliswa kobuso bakhe kulo mzuzu awusoze ukhohlwa! Njengalapho uhamba naye ku-T-shirt ngombhalo othi "Othandekayo, angikwazi ngisho nokuthi ngizokutshela kanjani ..." nesithombe esihle somntwana.
Futhi kuyoba kuhle kangakanani kumyeni wakho uma ubhake ikhekhe kuye, nokuthi kuyamangala kangakanani nenjabulo kuyoba lapho ethola khona inothi lala mazwi amnandi. Njengoba ubona, kunezindlela eziningi zokutshela umuntu othandekayo mayelana nokukhulelwa, kufanele uxhumane yonke ingqondo yakho bese ukhetha okungcono kakhulu.
Thola umzuzu ofanele kanye namagama afanele kumuntu ukuthi maduzane uzoba uyise womndeni umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu kumama wesikhathi esizayo. Phela, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, lokhu kuxhomeke kakhulu ekuhloleni okuqhubekayo phakathi kukapapa nomntwana.