Okokuqala, la madoda ayazisa umbono owawenziwe yintombazane ekuqaleni kokubona. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukubukeka kudlala indima enkulu. Kubukeka, hhayi ubuhle. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ubukeka kanjani, indlela oziphatha ngayo, ukuthi uyakwazi kanjani ukuveza wena nokuthi ubheka kanjani abanye. Izembatho, yebo, nazo ziyindaba, kodwa zihambisana nazo zonke ezinye izici. Ungagqoka izingubo ezibizayo futhi ubukeke ngendlela efana nomfanekiso, kodwa ungathokozi impumelelo yabafana futhi uhlale unesizungu. Into esemqoka ubuntu bakho nokuvumelana kwawo nokuziphatha kwakho, umlingiswa, ngokukhushulwa kwakho nokuthula kwangaphakathi. Ngamanye amazwi, kubalulekile lapho isikhala sakho sangaphandle nangaphakathi, isikhangiso sakho kanye nesicelo sakho socansi sihlangene ngokuvumelana. Manje kunezincomo eziningi kwi-intanethi nasemazweni ukuthi singabheka kanjani, futhi ngeke sihlale kulokhu ngokuningiliziwe lapha. Kulesi sihloko sizocabangela kuphela izakhi eziyisisekelo zokubukeka okukhangayo.
Iqiniso liwukuthi imibono yokukhangisa kwabesifazane emadodeni nakwabesifazane ihluke kakhulu kusuka komunye nomunye. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi abantu baqala ukuqala ukubonakala okuhle. Kodwa lokhu akusilo ... Umuntu ngamunye unelungelo lakhe lobuhle besifazane, futhi lokhu kungcono kungashintsha ngokudala. Futhi uma ubuhle ngokuvamile bunikezwa ngokwemvelo, ukukhanga kuyinkhono engatholakala. Lesi isithombe sakho, isithombe sakho nokuziphatha kwakho. Yilokho isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ozenza ngokwakho. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozalwa enhle, kodwa zonke izintombi zingafunda ukuthi zikhangele futhi zifunde ukuheha abafana.
Ngakho, ingxenye yokuqala yokubukeka okukhangayo ubuhle bezinwele, ubuso, izibalo ezinikezwe ngokwemvelo. Lapha ungakwazi ukugcizelela kuphela izinhlangothi zakho zokuwina bese uzama ukufihla amaphutha. Kodwa kubafana kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi intombazane iveza kanjani yona. Futhi uma ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa ohlangothini olukhangayo, khona-ke umfana uzobanaka kuqala futhi angaboni ukwehluleka kwakho okuncane.
Ubuhle bemvelo bungenza noma yikuphi intombazane. Kodwa yena, ngaphakathi yena ngokwakhe, akakakaze enze umnikazi wakhe onenhlanhla okwamanje. Hlola nxazonke, uhlaziye indawo ozungezile, futhi uzobona ukuthi kunamantombazane amaningi amahle ahlala engalahlwa yilabafana futhi ngokufanayo, amantombazane amaningi anedatha yangaphandle kakhulu esetshenziselwa ubulili obuhlukile ukuze uphumelele. Ngakho-ke, uma ungazibheki njengomuntu omuhle, lokhu akuseyisizathu sokuphelelwa ithemba.
Into yesibili yizingubo. Futhi akusiyo intengo yakhe noma umkhiqizo owenzayo, kodwa ukucoceka kwakhe nokuthi ukhethwe kanjani. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuchuma kwakho kudlala cishe. Namuhla, ngenxa yemali encane, ungathenga into enhle. Futhi futhi ungakwazi ukugqoka izinto ezibizayo, kodwa akusizi ngalutho ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukuba abafana bakunake, okokuqala kufanele ubheke kahle futhi ujabule. Futhi khumbula - into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwenza ukuqala kokuqala. Ngeke ube nelungelo lesibili lokulikhiqiza futhi. Noma kunjalo - udinga ukwazi umehluko phakathi kwezingubo zokuzijabulisa nezishukumisayo. Uma ugqoke futhi ucasulayo, khona-ke abafana kuphela abafuna izenzakalo zobusuku obulodwa bazokulalela.
Okwesithathu, ukuziphatha kwakho nokuziphatha kubaluleke kakhulu. Lesi yisici esibaluleke kunazo zonke ekukhangeni kwanoma iyiphi intombazane. Kulapha ukuthi izwe lakho elingaphakathi kanye nokuzikhethela kwakho nokungaqondakali kubonakala ngokwakho.
Ungase ubuze: "Kodwa kuthiwani ngezimfanelo zami ezingokomoya?" Yazi ukuthi umfana uthatha isikhathi eside ukuze afunde izindawo zabo. Futhi ekuqaleni kokuphola, izimfanelo zakho ezingokomoya kuye ziyimfihlakalo. Futhi le mfihlakalo inikeza ubudlelwane bakho ngentengo ethile, ukuba khona kwekhasi elithile.