Ngeshwa, uthando aluwona isiqinisekiso sokuthi abantu bayoba ndawonye ndawonye kuze kube phakade. Kwenzeka ukuthi abantu abanothando kufanele bahlukane. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi yini ebangela ukuba kube nzima ukukhetha kokubili amadoda nabesifazane?
Izimo ezihlukumeziwe
Ezinganekwane izikhulu zihlala zishada amaCinderellas abampofu futhi zihlala ngokujabula njalo. Kodwa empilweni yonke into ingenzeka ngokuhluke kakhulu. Abantu abanesimo sezenhlalo ezahlukene bangaba nzima kakhulu. Iqiniso liwukuthi ubuhlobo abukwazi ukwakhelwa othandweni wedwa. Abantu kufanele babe nezithakazelo ezivamile, ukubukwa esimweni nokunye. Ekupheleni, abantu kudingeka bazi ukuthi bakhulume ngani. Kodwa uma umfana nentombazane bekhulile emakilasini ahlukene kakhulu emphakathini, banombono omuhle kakhulu wezenzo, ubunzima, njalonjalo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bazomuzwa ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuba babe ndawonye. Ngokuvamile ubudlelwane obunjalo bukhula bube yizihlambalaza, izinsolo zomunye nomunye ukuphuma ngaphandle kokuqonda. Ngesikhathi esifanayo abantu baqhubeka bezwa uthando, kodwa nokho, akukho lutho olungenza lutho kubo. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akumangazi, ngoba ukuhlala kwethu ngokweqile kuhlanganiswa ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphansi kwethonya lomphakathi esikukhula kuwo. Ngakho-ke, uma sifakwa endaweni ehluke ngokuphelele, ngakho-ke, ngokucophelela noma ngokungazi ukuthi umuntu uqala ukumelana nalokho okuzungezile. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi i-Cinderellas iyakuthanda izikhulu, kodwa lokho akugcini nje ukukwazi ukulwa nomhlaba okhazimulayo wabakhethiweyo babo, lapho amantombazane alula engenakho okukwenzayo.
Ukungavumelani kwabalingiswa
Kunezimo lapho abathandi behlukanisa, ngoba bahlala behlambalaza futhi befunga. Isizathu salokhu yizinhlamvu ezingavumelani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona lapha ngokuphambene nezinhlamvu ezihlukile, okungukuthi, ezifanayo. Isibonelo, bobabili indoda nowesifazane bayabaholi ngendlela yabo. Zisetshenziswa ukuhlala zilawula ubuhlobo. Futhi kuvela ukuthi omunye wabo kuzodingeka enze okuthile. Ngokwemvelo, wonke umuntu ufuna umuntu wesibili enze ukuvumelana. U-Vitoga, phakathi kwabathandi abahlala njalo eqala ukuphikisana nezingxabano futhi akekho othanda ukunikeza omunye nomunye. Yingakho behlukana. Ngakho abantu abanjalo bangathandana konke ukuphila, lapha kuphela ukuba ndawonye kubo akunakwenzeka. Ngokuvamile, abambalwa abanjalo bazama ukuhlangana ndawonye izikhathi eziningana, kodwa ngemva nje kokubuyisana okuhlekisayo, ukuhlukana kuyaqala futhi. Iqiniso liwukuthi abesifazane nabamantombazane abanalo ukubekezelelana ngokwanele nokuhambisana. Abakaze bazenzele izinto ezingathandeki, ikakhulukazi nabantu abaseduze. Kubalulekile ukuthi abantu abanjalo babe nokubambisana nomlingani oqotho kakhulu abangeke baqaphele inkani yabo.
Ukuhlanganyela komphakathi
Abantu abaningi bacindezelwa umbono womphakathi. Ngokuvamile imibhangqwana ihlukana ngoba abantu ababazungezile baxoxa njalo ngobuhlobo babo futhi bakhulume ngokungakhethi. Kodwa-ke, ungasho ukuthi uma uthanda, ngeke unake umbono womphakathi. Kodwa konke akulula kakhulu njengoba kubonakala. Ngokwesibonelo, emindenini enkolo kakhulu, abasoze bamamukela umuntu wenye inkolo noma ongakholelwa kuNkulunkulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi intombazane noma isoka lingamthandi okhethiweyo. Umphakathi onjalo uzohlala uveza ukuphikisana okubukhali ngokumelene nalo muntu. Kulokhu, akekho ocabanga ngemizwa yabantu abasha. Wonke umuntu ukholelwa ukuthi benza into efanele futhi avikele ingqondo encane ebubini. Nakuba empeleni, umbhangqwana othandweni kufanele uthwale izinsongo ze-iobida nsuku zonke, ulalele izinkulumo ezingathandeki ekuqondeni kwazo, izinsongo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bangakwazi ukuhlukana ngoba i-psyche ayigcine ingcindezi enjalo. Lucky kulabo abangakwazi ukuya kwenye indawo, kude nabo bonke abazama ukuphula imiphefumulo yabo, balungisiswe ngezinhloso ezilungile. Kodwa kaningi kunokuba imibhangqwana enjalo ingenalo ithuba lokushiya idolobha lakubo noma idolobhaneni futhi kancane kancane ingcindezi yomphakathi iba mnyama futhi ingabe kufanele sihlakazeke ukuze singahambi kalula. Ngeshwa, kunamacala uma imibhangqwana enjalo ingakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komunye nomunye, kodwa afuna ukuhlala enkingeni enjalo noma. Kulesi simo, imibhangqwana ivame ukuya ekuzibulaleni kokubili ukubulala ingcindezi yokuphila futhi ungalokothi uhlukanise.
Angifuni ukuphazamisa ukuphila
Ekuhlukaneni kwabantu kungashukumisa ubukhulu bokuqala. Kulesi simo, umuntu uvele eqonda ukuthi akakwazi ukunikeza othandekayo lokho okufanele. Izizathu zingahluka: izinhlamvu eziphambene, imigomo ehlukene nokunye. Isibonelo, umfana ubona ukuthi intombazane yakhe ayithandayo iyathandana kakhulu, inenhlalo futhi inothando. Ukholelwa ezindabeni zezinganekwane futhi ufuna umuntu oyintandokazi ukudala le ndaba ngaye. Unesifiso esikhulu nezifiso. Uhlale efuna ukukhulumisana, eze nezinto ezintsha, ukuhamba nokunye njalo, futhi le nsizwa ngumuntu ongenalutho ozama ukukwenza lokho owesifazane wakhe akufunayo, kodwa konke kunikelwa kuye ngobunzima obukhulu futhi uyaqaphela ukuthi akasoze abe umuntu onjalo njengoba adinga. Isikhathi esiningi uzama ngobuqotho ukulungisa konke, kodwa ke uqala ukuqonda ukuthi lo muntu uvele ehlupheka eceleni kwakhe. Ngisho noma engabonakali lokhu, vseravno uzwa ukuthi kunzima kangakanani futhi uyaqonda ukuthi kuyoba nzima nakakhulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ama-halves wesibili awakwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi kungani kwenzeka. Bathukuthelela abathandekayo babo, bavele banyamalala empilweni yabo, bawasola ngokuba nobuvila, ubuwula, njalo njalo. Ukuqonda isimo kuza ngesikhathi. Kulokhu, umuntu onothando wenza kahle. Uya emhlatshelweni, ekholelwa ukuthi ukukhetha kwakhe okuhle kuzokuhlupheka manje futhi uvumele lolu thando luye ukuthola umuntu ongamnika lona. Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke umuntu ojabule nalesi sikhundla. Abanye basesiphethweni sokuthi kungcono ukuba nabathandekayo bakho ukwamukela, ukwamukela kunokuba baphile ngaphandle kwalo. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, abantu bayaqaphela ukuthi lokhu kuhlukaniswa kuye kwazuzisa labo abenze isenzo esinjalo. Mhlawumbe, lesi yisizathu esidabukisayo kunazo zonke kubantu abathandekayo ukuba bahlanganyele. Eqinisweni, kulokhu konke kungagcinwa, kodwa, ngeshwa, umuntu wesibili akaqabukeli ukuthi uyakwazi nini futhi kanjani. Ufuna yena ngokwakhe, uzoba nesifiso sokuhlukanisa futhi angaqondi ukuthi kwakungenxa yakhe ukuthi indoda yenqaba impilo yakhe kanye nenjabulo yakhe. Futhi uma kuziwa kokwazi, sekuphuzile kakhulu ukushintsha noma yini.