Ukucindezeleka okufihliwe nakho kubizwa ngokuthi okungapheli. Kuvela uma siqaphela ngokucophelela imizwa yokuzizwa, esiyibheka njengeyihlazo noma engalungile. Kubonakala ukuthi imizwa enjalo ecacile futhi enamandla ikhona, futhi uma isikhathi eside sibheke ngaphakathi, kube nzima kakhulu imiphumela.
Cabanga ukuthi kwakuzokwenzekani uma umlilo ufaka isifuba ngembobo ebhalwe kuso. Kulula ukuqagela ukuthi kuzokwenzeka kuye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Okungenani into efanayo eyenzeka ngomphefumulo wethu: imizwelo ishisa kusuka ngezansi, imizwa yomphakathi (iwayini, ukwesaba noma ihloni) iyacindezela phezulu. I-Psychotherapists iqiniseka ukuthi yile mizwa eyingozi kakhulu. Babhubhisa ukuthi ubani ungubani. I-voltage, eqhutshwa ngaphakathi, iyanda futhi iqoqa. Ngenxa yalokho, emva kwesikhashana ukuqhuma komzwelo kwenzeka, okungaholela ngisho nasengqondweni noma ekucindezelekeni okude isikhathi eside.
Ngeshwa, ngaphambi kwethonya elibhubhisayo lokucindezeleka okulindelekile, kaningi singasizi ngalutho. Futhi konke ngoba ayikwazi ukuqonda okwenzeka emphefumulweni wethu nokuthi yini esiyifunayo ngempela. Lezi zimo ezivame kakhulu zalokho okungahle kwenzeke kuwo wonke umuntu.
Isimo 1. "Yansuku zonke kuya ezansi"
Ake sithi insizwa yayiboshiwe ebhasini ngenkampani yabesilisa abadakiwe ababehlukumeza futhi behlukana. Ngemuva kokuba insizwa enjalo izoza ukusebenza esimweni esihle kakhulu. Uzokhathazeka futhi athukuthele, angahloniphi futhi angenangqondo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ezinye izinkinga zingenzeka ngenxa yokukhathazeka. Isibonelo, endleleni eya ekhaya, angakwazi ukuguqula umlenze wakhe, angene emgodini nokunye okunjalo. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube nzima nakakhulu isimo. Ukufika ekhaya, yonke intukuthelo le nsizwa izokwehlisa izihlobo. Kuzo zonke imibuzo "Kwenzekani?", Ngeke kube khona impendulo yokukhonjiswa. Ngakho uzoqala ukuqoqa ukucindezeleka okuncane.
Isimo 2. "Okufunwa Kancane"
Nasi esinye isibonelo sokuphila. Owesifazane uneminyaka engu-33 ubudala, kodwa akazange ashade. Kodwa unomsebenzi omuhle kakhulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, i-barmy futhi ihlakaniphile, inamandla futhi inenjongo. Uyayithanda kakhulu, kodwa ngesizathu esithile ubuhlobo obunzima abuyikukhula. Wayengabonakali ukukhombisa izibonakaliso zokuhlangenwe nakho, kodwa wayekhathazeka kakhulu ngaphakathi: wayezwa ukuthi kukhona okungalungile kuye, ukuthi wayexoxwa ngemuva kwakhe, ukuthi wonke umuntu wayehleka yedwa. Futhi ekugcineni, lapho indoda ivele khona, yavele imisa isandla kuyo yonke into: ithi, kungani kufanele ngenze lokhu, kimi futhi omunye akukubi. Ngemva kwalokho, le ntombazane yaqala ukuqala enye ibhizinisi.
Isimo 3. "Ngidlala, ngikhathele, ngiyeka!"
Ekuphileni, kunezimo eziningi ezingathandeki. Nansi enye yalezo. Ukukhulelwa kokuqala kwentombazane sekuphelile. Ekupheleni kwesikhathi, ukukhulelwa kwaphazamiseka. Futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi intombazane imane nje ayiqapheli ukuzama kwesibili. Uhlushwa ukwesaba nokungabaza, futhi ngokuzumayo konke kwenzeka futhi. Futhi lapha futhi kuhlazekile: "Ngingowesifazane futhi angikwazi ukuthwala into ebaluleke kakhulu - ukuba nengane". Kulesi simo, ukucindezeleka kwengqondo kuqala ukucindezeleka okukhulu.
Isimo 4. "Ukuxilongwa okungalungile"
Kulo wesifazane oneminyaka engamashumi amane odokotela basolwa ngesifo socwaningo. Ngokunganaki, bamtshela ngakho. Ngemva kokunikeza izivivinyo eziphindaphindiwe, lo wesifazane wabona ukuthi ukutholakala kwesifo akuqinisekisiwe. Kodwa manje engqondweni yakhe kuyohlale ingacabanga ukuthi ngokuzumayo odokotela benza iphutha okwesibili futhi. Owesifazane waqala ukuzwa, esuka kubantu, waphuma waya kuye futhi waqala ukuzicabangela ukuzibulala. Ukucindezela okunjalo kwengqondo kuyingozi kakhulu.
Imizwa ephathekayo
Ukucindezeleka okufihliwe, okuhlangenwe nakho komunye wamalungu omndeni, kuyothinta yonke imindeni. Izazi zengqondo ziye zafakazela ukuthi abantu abaseduze bangase baqale ukuphumula: ukucindezela ukuqhuma, ikhanda, izinhliziyo ezingavamile, ukuhlaselwa kwe-vegetative dystonia, ukungasebenzi kwemetabolism, njll, kubonakala. Kodwa emndenini, ukucindezeleka okufihliwe kulula kakhulu futhi kunakekelwa. Indlela elula ukuvula ngaphambi kwamalungu omndeni wakho futhi ubatshele konke okuqoqiwe ngaphakathi kwakho.
Ukuthukuthela, ngoba ibhola
Ngokuvamile siyagula ngenxa yokuthi sifihlile ukucindezeleka. Ngokwesibonelo, izifo ze-thyroid zenza umuntu akhathazeke, angokomzwelo futhi ahlasele. Abesifazane bangase babe nezinkinga ngesibindi nokukhathazeka. Ngaphambili umuntu uyaqaphela ukuthi upheqelekile, kungcono. Isizathu singasuswa ngokushesha, into esemqoka ukukwazi. Kanye ne-sostressom futhi uhambe kabi, ukucasuka, ukunganeliseki. Ukubuyiselwa nokuthula emndenini.
Ngingabasiza kanjani?
Ngokungavamile kakhulu siphendukela kwengqondo. Ngokuvamile, sinesiqiniseko sokuthi sikwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka nezinkinga ezanele. Kodwa akunakwenzeka nakanjani ukwenza. Kungani? Ngoba akubona wonke umuntu owazi ukukwenza.
- Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi kukhona ukucindezeleka. Thatha. "Yebo, ngiyahamba usuku lonke ngenxa yeziwula ezichitha ibhasi ebhasi lami"; "Yebo, ngizizwa ngibi futhi ngiphutha, ngoba anginakho umyeni." Kunzima ukuza emicabangweni enjalo. Kodwa ngokushesha uma wenza lokhu, kungcono kuwe.
- Qonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela nokuthi kungani uyidinga. Mhlawumbe awudingi umndeni nhlobo, awudalwanga ngalokhu. Futhi konke-uzwela kuphela ngenxa yokuthi awuhlangabezi nokuhlukumezeka komphakathi: bathi, lona wesifazane ungumgcini wezindlu, akufanele abe yedwa, kumele afundise izingane nokunye.
- Gwema ngokweqiniso isimo esizokwenzeka uma isimo esicindezelayo sakho sifinyelela esiphethweni sayo esinengqondo. Isibonelo, awutholanga umyeni. Yini ngempela ezokwenzeka empilweni yakho, yini ezoyishintsha kuyo? Yini eyesabekayo kule simo? Futhi emva kwalokho lokho kunquma ukuthi umthombo ungowona noma cha, njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni.
- Thola indlela ephephile yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Variantovizbavitsya yokucindezeleka kwengqondo kakhulu. Ungenza imidlalo, ungakhala emcongeni noma ukhulume nomuntu othandekayo, ungalala kahle noma uhambe eholidini. Wonke umuntu angathola indlela yakhe, into esemqoka ukuqala ukubuka.
- Funda ukwabelana nakho kwakho nabathandekayo. Akukhathaleki ukuthi ubani, kungaba abazali noma umyeni. Abantu abaningi bavame ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zabo kubantu abangabazi, isibonelo, odokotela, abathengisi noma abasebenza nabo. Kodwa ngokucindezeleka okungapheli lokhu akuthandeki. Laba bantu ngeke bakwazi ukukusekela ngobungane, okudingeka kakhulu ezimweni ezinjalo. Kuyoba nzima kuwe ukwamukela umbono ohlukile, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uzokhathala ngokomzimba nangokwenyama. Khumbula ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa kwabantu abavela ngaphandle kuzoholela ekucindezelekeni.
- Uma izindlela ezingenhla zingakusizi, thintana no-psychotherapist oqeqeshiwe kakhulu. Akukho lutho oluhlazo ngalokhu. Abantu abaningi basebenzisa izinsizakalo zakhe. Esikhathini sethu, kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nomthwalo wengqondo. Ngakho-ke, kwezinye izimo, usizo lwezochwepheshe luyadingeka.
Khumbula ukuthi sonke sihlukile futhi ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu uhlangabezana nokucindezeleka ngendlela yakhe. Abanye bayahamba ngezinyawo nabangani, abanye bazivale futhi bahlukaniswe nezwe elingaphandle, kanti abanye bavele bamathelele kuzo zonke futhi baqhubeke beqhubeka. Yingakho ekwelapheni ukucindezeleka okungapheli, kubalulekile ukukhetha indlela yomuntu ngamunye kumuntu ngamunye.