Yiqiniso, ukukhuthala kubaluleke kakhulu, ikhwalithi ephawulekayo neyigugu. Kodwa kuthiwani uma umyeni esebenza amahora angama-70 ngesonto, futhi ngezimpelasonto, nangamaholide, ngaphezu kwalokho, umsebenzi ube yindlela yakhe yokuphila?
Uma owesifazane etshela ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyisisebenzi esinzima, abangane bakhe abaningi bayamhawukela, ngenkathi becabanga: "Futhi yini enye ayidinga lokho engamfanelanga yona? Futhi ehlakaniphile, futhi ephumelelayo, futhi ulethe ekhaya imali ..." Nokho, empeleni yonke netak ilanga futhi engenandaba.
Umuntu onjalo akanalo isikhathi somndeni, ngoba uhlale ematasa ngomsebenzi nezinye izinto. Ngokuvamile, uya emsebenzini lapho umkakhe elele, futhi ubuya lapho efuna ukulala futhi. Umsebenzi wakhe awunasiphetho, akukho zwe, ngoba kuthatha isikhathi somuntu othandekayo ngamaholide kanye nezinsuku ezivuliwe. Futhi uma ekwazi ukumncenga ukuba athathe iholidi, uze anqume ezindabeni ezibalulekile mayelana nebhizinisi lakhe noma ezinye izinkinga zokukhiqiza ngisho naselwandle. Ungaba kanjani kulesi simo? Uhlukaniswe? Cha, kunjalo! Phela, kunendlela engcono kakhulu yokufundisa umuntu osebenza kahle ukuba angatholi nje ibhizinisi kanye nomsebenzi.
Ungubani yena?
Ngasiphi isizathu amadoda ahamba nawo asebenze namakhanda abo? Kungaba khona okuningi. Isizathu sokuqala - lokhu kudinga iphrojekthi ethile noma imisebenzi yabo. Uma bedlulisa iphrojekthi noma umgomo oyifunayo, bazophinde baqale ukusebenza kumodi evamile. Isizathu sesibili - abanye abantu nje abazi ukuthi bangaphatha kanjani isikhathi sabo ukusabalalisa abasebenzi. Kodwa-ke, akukho isizathu sokuqala noma sesibili asisho ukuthi amadoda asebenza kahle. Kuyindlela nje kusuka esimweni esithile kuze kube yilapho ukusebenza ngesigqi sokuzihlambalaza, lapho sisemsebenzini, kuyi-philosophical. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenkathi umyeni wakho engekho ekhaya, ungazinakekela ngokuzithoba, izingane kanye namanye amaqembu, akekho ophazamisa noma ophazamisayo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, konke kuzoba khona, i-willow ibambe.
Ukusebenza ngokwemvelo yindoda enomsebenzi wayo obalulekile empilweni, futhi konke okujabulisayo - ukuphumula, umndeni, ukuzijabulisa, uthando - ekugcineni kuzoya ngemuva. Amadoda anesibindi nabasebenza kanzima azama ukusebenza kanzima ukuze afinyelele umgomo: imali engenayo enkulu, amaholidi angaphandle, ukuthenga imoto noma indlu, njalonjalo, futhi abaqashi beqiniso abathinteki ukubaluleka emiphumeleni yomsebenzi wabo, bazondla ngenqubo eyodwa. Izolo usebenza esikhungweni esiphezulu sesitshalo noma esebenza ebhizinisini lakhe.
Ngisho noma u-workaholic ehola kahle, akakwazi ukuphatha imali engenayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma umama, umama noma abanye abantu abaseduze beqala ukuveza lokhu okungahambi kahle, lo msebenzi ohlala njalo uphendula ngezizathu: "Anginelungelo lokuya eholidini ngize ngiqede lokhu futhi ngikwenze." Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho umgomo ufinyelelwa, i-workaholic iyaqhubeka isebenza, kodwa egameni lenye into. Futhi njalo njalo. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi yini ebangela lokhu?
Futhi ohahayo, nomfundi omuhle kakhulu
Izazi zengqondo zithi izidakamizwa zingahlukaniswa zibe yizinhlobo eziningana, ngasinye ngasinye esinezizathu zayo. Manje sithola ukuthi ubani onalo hlobo, futhi sizoqonda indlela yokuphatha ngayinye yazo.
Umbaleki omusha
Waba ngumsebenzi wokuzikhandla ngaphandle kokuphila okuhle, wanqotshwa izinkinga empilweni yakhe. Uma ungamnaki umuntu, ungaqapheli ukufaneleka kwakhe noma abanye abathandekayo abamthandi, uqala ukuwufuna kwenye indawo - emsebenzini. Lapha udunyiswa ngabalingani bakhe, uyaziqhenya ngabaphathi bakhe, uba ngumsebenzi wangempela: uyasebenza isikhathi esengeziwe, usiza wonke umuntu, unikeza iseluleko. Ngenxa yalokho, ihhovisi ngaphandle kwalo alikwazi ukusebenza, lilindele, liyalidinga, liyazi ama-nuances omsebenzi futhi likwazi ukuxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga nanoma iyiphi inkinga. Ngakho-ke, akafuni ngisho nokuya ekhaya ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane nomkakhe.
Isisebenzi esihle kunazo zonke
Ngokuqinisekile abazali bomuntu onjalo bafuna indodana yabo ibe yinto engcono kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu: emsebenzini, esikoleni, ezemidlalo. Ngakho-ke, akazange abathukuthele futhi azame ukufanisa izifiso zomama ne-ipapa, ngakho akaphazanyiswa yizinto ezithandwayo zokuzilibazisa nokuphumula. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, abazali abazange badumise umfana wabo, ngakho wanquma ukuthi kufanele azame kanzima. Lapho umuntu eba omdala, uyaqhubeka nokusebenza kanzima, kodwa usevele esebenza, ngenkathi ebonisa ukuthi noma yimuphi umsebenzi nanoma yimuphi umsebenzi kuye ehlombe. Izazi zengqondo zithi abantu abanjalo badinga usizo lochwepheshe, ngoba bona ngokwabo abakwazi ukukuqonda lokhu. Isazi sengqondo sizobasiza ukuba basuse izakhiwo zezingane futhi bashintshe izinto eziza kuqala.
Ukuhaha okunobungozi. La madoda asebenza ngokuzikhandla ukuze athole imali eningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngisho nalapho umuntu onjalo eba ngumsizi, ngeke akwanele futhi uzocabanga ukuthi akakakabi kahle. Unamahloni ngokuthi akanaso isikhathi esiningi sokuthi asebenzise imali, ayenayo emva kwalokho negazi, ngoba udinga ukusebenza. Ngokuqinisekile le nkinga ibuyele ebuntwaneni, ngakho-ke kudingeka uhlole ukuthi wakhuliswa kanjani, unake abazali bayo. Mhlawumbe wakhulela emndenini ongathokozi kakhulu, lapho imali yayingenamthetho khona, ngakho-ke wanquma ukuthi noma yini eyamdinga ukuba acebile, mhlawumbe wayengamthandi, yingakho ezama ukukhokhela imali abazali bakhe abangayinike yona.
Ungamfundisa kanjani ukuba aphumule?
Uma ubona indoda kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwabantu ababhekene nezidakamizwa, kufanele usebenze masinyane, futhi lokhu kufanele kube izingxoxo eziyinkimbinkimbi, kufanele ifundiswe kabusha. Abahluphekayo abawazi nje ukuthi bangaphuma kanjani, ngakho-ke kufanele usize othandekayo wakho afunde ukuphumula. Kodwa lokhu kungafinyelelwa kanjani? Umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukudala isimo ekhaya ofuna ukubuyela kuso, ukuze wenze umyeni wakho afune ukubuyela ekhaya. Zama ukulalela futhi uzwele, ukhulume ngokuthi uyamthanda kanjani, ukuncoma, utshele imicabango yakho, izenzakalo, umbuze ukuthi usuku luhambe kanjani. Ikakhulukazi okumele yenziwe kubantu ababhekene nezidakamizwa-ababaleki, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu.
Mbuze ukuthi ufuna ukuchitha ngempelasonto (Yebo, ngaphandle komsebenzi), futhi umsize ukuba aqaphele isifiso, ngisho noma ubona ngempelasonto yakho ngendlela ehlukile. Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi zenze lokhu okulandelayo: usuku ngalunye noma usuku olulodwa oluhlala endlini, lunikeza "umklomelo" kumlingani wakho - iya emtholampilo, ubukele umdlalo webhola, ubukele i-movie ayithandayo, isidlo esiyintandokazi, okungukuthi, mnike lokho akuthandayo.
Yiqiniso, cela ukuthi akusize eduze kwendlu - kumele azi ukuthi ekhaya nawe udinga ukukhombisa ukukhuthele. Kodwa nje ungalayi futhi ungayinikezi umsebenzi, kodwa cela usizo. Qhathanisa ukusabela ngokwaso emibinweni ethi "Shaya ishalofu lapha" futhi "Bathandekayo, ngithanda ukubeka ishalofu lezincwadi lapha. Futhi ucabangani ngalokhu? ". Ngemva kokukusiza, mbonge futhi umdumise, mtshele indlela enhle ngayo, ukunakekela nokunye. Futhi uma umyeni wakho engumsebenzi ovelele kakhulu, khona-ke indlela yakho eyinhloko kufanele kube yilezi: "Uvele ubaluleke kakhulu, angikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho!".
Futhi uma ufuna ukuya endaweni ethile naye endaweni ethile, ke kusengaphambili uvumelane ngezinsuku. Ungabhala phansi edayari yakhe, ngakho uzokhumbula futhi abuye ekhaya ngesikhathi.