Wake wacabanga ukuthi ngichitha isikhathi esiningi nabalingani nabalingani kunabo nezihlobo zami nabangani bami? Amahora ayisishiyagalolunye noma ngaphezulu ngosuku kufanele siphile ngokuhlangene (njengalapha embhedeni) nabaphathi, osebenza nabo, abangaphansi, ngenkathi oshade naye, izingane, abazali, izilwane ezifuywayo zingathola amahora angama-4-5, ngesikhathi esifanayo nhlobo ngendlela egcwele. Awucabangi ukuthi isimiso esinjalo sokusebenza sisondelene kakhulu? Mhlawumbe, yingakho abaningi bathandana ubudlelwane bawela ezincwadini ezisemthethweni. Futhi lokhu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wonke umuntu uyaqonda - isimo sengqondo emsebenzini singalimala kokubili umsebenzi ngokwawo, kanye nomsebenzi noma idumela lomuntu siqu. Noma kunjalo, awukwazi ukuyala inhliziyo yakho. Yini engingayenza uma ngithandana emsebenzini? Qala i-romance yesevisi noma uhambisane nekhodi engaqinisekisiwe: "Ungalali, usebenza kuphi!"?
I-Service tale, noma i-Roman, eyaba yindaba
Iqembu le-Nautilus-Pompilius linomculo ngala mazwi: "Ufunde leveli, futhi yaba indaba." Ziningi kangakanani ukuthi zibafanelekayo kwabesifazane abakhetha in romance service. Izazi zengqondo ezinkampanini zabo ezijwayelekile lapho abesifazane beqala khona amanoveli angaphumelelanga emsebenzini futhi bezokwelapha ngemiphumela emibi ngendlela yokucabanga okungalungile, umndeni ophukile, umsebenzi owonakele, ukuxoshwa emsebenzini, njll. Noma kunjalo, noma kunjalo ukuthi amanoveli enkonzo angase aqede, i-aura yokuthandana kuyohlale ihamba nabo. Kuyinto engenamsebenzi futhi engenamsebenzi ukuletha izibalo ezidabukisayo zobuhlobo obuseduze, ukudweba zonke izingozi zabo nemiphumela emibi. Amaveliveli okusebenza ayekhona, ayenjalo futhi azoba! Izazi zengqondo zinezeluleko elilodwa kuphela jikelele kulolu cala: ukuqonda ngokucophelela nokuzibandakanya ngokuzibandakanya ezindabeni zothando, ngakho-ke kulezi zinsuku kwakungekho ndawo yokugonywa. Ngaphambi kokunquma ukukhombisa ukunakwa komuntu osebenza nabo noma ukusabela ekuthandaneni kwakhe, kubalulekile ukuziqonda ngokucacile izisusa zangempela ezihola isifiso sokuthandana nesisebenzi:- Ukuphakama phakathi kwezizathu ezibangela ukuthanda uthando emsebenzini, ukungabi nobuhlobo obuseduze noma ukungabi nobulili obuhle. Lokhu kusebenza kokubili kwabesifazane abangashadile nalabo abashadile. Ukwenza isinqumo sokungena ebuhlotsheni bokusebenzisana, lesi sizathu kufanele sisuswe kuqala. Zibuze imibuzo: yini oyifunayo ngokuyinhloko kulokhu kuxhumana, futhi ungadideli uthando ngendlala ngocansi? Uma umgomo wakho ubulili ngaphandle kwezibopho, qhubeka phambili! Into eyinhloko, qiniseka wena ngokwakho, nangokhetho lwakho.
- Ubuhlobo obuningi bokuthandana emsebenzini bubophezelwe ngenxa yokuntuleka kokungabikho kokuxhumana nokuntuleka kokuzilibazisa kwamasiko. Kwabesifazane abafunayo, abahlala endaweni yokuphila esebenzayo, badweba njalo amahora, okuyiwona wonke amacala ahleliwe, imihlangano noma ukuvakashelwa. Bakholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi futhi ngakho-ke uthathe isikhathi esiningi ukuze "ulethe" empilweni yakho siqu. Njengoba usuxazulule inkinga ngokuzilibazisa okuthakazelisayo nokuziqhenya ngaphandle komsebenzi, uzokwandisa umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana futhi uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe lokhu "ukusebenza" kuyadingeka kuwe ngempela.
- Ukuzihlonipha okungekho eminye yimbangela evamile yamanoveli nabasebenza nabo emsebenzini. Kwabesifazane, kungaba ukukhuluphala ngokweqile, ubudala be-"non-commodity", ukuklama okungabonakali kokubukeka, izinkimbinkimbi, njll. Lezi zinto ziyancipha kakhulu amathuba okuba owesifazane emakethe yothando, futhi indawo kuphela lapho angakwazi khona ukuhlela impilo yakhe siqu. Abantu abakwa-Willy-nilly baphoqeleka ukuba bakhulume ngokucophelela, babe nemisebenzi ejwayelekile yokusebenza, okungabazeki ukuthi ibasondeza. Kulesi simo, abesifazane abavami ukuthanda umuntu othile, kodwa ngamacilongo amthwala kusukela emibonweni yabo namaphupho. Ngenxa yalokho - amathemba angaqinisekisiwe, uthando oluphukile kanye nezinkimbinkimbi ezintsha. Ngakho-ke, uma uthanda osebenza nabo futhi ufuna ukuba nobuhlobo naye, bukela ngemuva kwakhe - ingabe kufanelekile ukuba uphenduke kwamanye amadoda? Uma kungenjalo, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha ukuzethemba?
Kuthiwani uma kunzima ukumelana ne-romance yesevisi?
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukunambitha lesi sithelo esinqatshelwe, uma ungenalo intando yokuyiyeka. Kodwa ungagijimeli echibini ngekhanda lakho. Okokuqala, ulinganise zonke izingozi bese ufunda imithetho yokuphepha ukuze ungcwatshwe ngaphansi kobuhlakani obuvela emibonweni ephukile:- Khumbula umthetho oyinhloko wothando lwenkampani: ungalali nomuntu ongakuvutha, futhi nomuntu ongashayela.
- Bala imiphumela engenzeka futhi uvumele ezingqondweni zezingqikithi - usulungele isimo esinjalo. Uma u-yebo, yibavumele futhi bakhululwe. Vumela ukuba ujabulele uthando olusemthethweni!
- Yabelana ngothando nomsebenzi. Vumela ubudlelwane bakho bomshado abuphazamise umsebenzi, futhi ungasebenzi uma "wenza uthando".
- Nakekela insizakalo yakho ye-romance kusuka kumhlebo. Gcina isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka ekusithekeni, ngisho noma unomuntu okhululekile futhi ungakwazi ukukhokhela lobu buhlobo.
- Unganiki izizathu zokuhleba. Ukubamba egumbini lokubhema noma ubulili kudeskithophu kuyindaba enhle yabenzi befilimu, kodwa hhayi idumela lakho lebhizinisi. Ukuba nomunye nomunye kungathathi hlangothi ngisho nasezenzweni zenkampani.
- Uma kwenzeka uthandana nomlingani wakho oshadile noma ushadile, ungavumelani nokuxhumeka kobuhlobo, ngisho nasolweni lwezinsolo zabasebenzi. Lena ibhizinisi lakho siqu, onelungelo lokungaxoxani nanoma ubani.
- Emthandweni wezinsizakalo zomsebenzi ngezinhlelo ezifinyelela kude, konke kungase kuphele emshadweni. Kodwa lobu buhlobo obuhluke ngokuphelele futhi, mhlawumbe, ukuze ubalondoloze, omunye wenu uzodingeka asule emsebenzini. Ulungele?
- Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi uthando, oluzelwe emsebenzini, lufa ngalo. Kanjani ukusebenza ndawonye? Uma ukuxoshwa akunakwenzeka, kuzodingeka ufunde ukuthi ube ngumuntu owakuthandayo owayengathandi - hhayi ukuthanda, kodwa hhayi ukuzonda. Kuyoba ukuhlambalaza uma ubudlelwane obwenqatshelwe buyoba yindawo yokuqoqa emva kokuba sebephelile.