Ungakhetha kanjani lover olungile?

Wonke owesifazane ufuna ukuthanda nokuthandwa. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nabesifazane abashadile bakhononda ukuthi isigamu sabo asibaniki ukunakekelwa okufanele, uthando lweqiniso, uthando, ukwaneliseka ngokocansi. Ngubani ozama ukubekezela konke lokhu ngaphakathi kwakhe, futhi ubani oqala ukucabanga ukuthi angamthola kanjani umuntu ohlangothini lwakhe. Futhi le ngxenye izokutshela ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani lover olungile. "Konke, ngikhathele, ngidinga indoda!", Kusho uKatya ngokuzumayo. "Ngingowesifazane ongashadile, nginebhizinisi lami, nezingane ezimbili ezinhle, ukuthi angikwazi ngisho nokuphumula kancane?"

"Ayikho into emhlabeni," uNatasha wagula kancane. "Nginomndeni ofanelekayo nomngane wami oshade naye ... Yebo, uma ejwayele ukuvakashela indlu njalo futhi wanginika isikhathi - Ngisengumfazi!".

Bonke laba besifazane, abakhathazekile ngesinkinga esisodwa - indlela yokuba owesifazane wangempela, abe eduze komuntu othandekayo futhi uthembele ekusekeleni kwakhe. Yiqiniso, ukwaneliseka ngokobulili phakathi kobambisene kudlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yempilo esebenzayo futhi egcwele yowesifazane, futhi ukuyeka kunganciphisa kakhulu ukuzethemba, impilo kanye nekhwalithi yokuphila.

Uma ufuna ukuba nomthandi udinga ukwazi imithetho ethile:

1. Thola umuntu ofanele ubuhlobo obunjalo - akulula. Yiqiniso, ungasebenzisa amathilomu, izindawo zokudla, izindawo zokuphola - zizokusiza ekusesheni kubalulekile. Qaphela, uma ukhetha kudingekile futhi ngezigaba zokuqala kobudlelwane obudinga ukuqhuba isheke (awufuni ngempela ukuba yisisulu somsizi noma umonakalo).

2. Uma ukhethe umlingani - udinga ukucacisa zonke izinhlobo zebuhlobo ngesikhathi esisodwa, emihlanganweni yokuqala. Qinisekisa ukuthi wena nomthandi wakho bafuna ubuhlobo obunjalo, ngoba ngenxa yalokhu ungakwazi ukugwema izinkinga eziningi esikhathini esizayo. Futhi, khuluma nomlingani wakho, indawo, izikhathi ezingaki (inyanga, amasonto), izindlela zokuxhumana.

3. Thola ukuthi yiziphi izingozi ezingaba yingxenye yakho nangokwengxenye yakho. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphatha imiphumela emihle kakhulu, njengezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, ukukhulelwa okungadingeki noma umhawu wabesilisa nabesifazane.

4. Uma uqala ukuphola, bese uqapha konke, ungathembeki kumlingani wakho. Uma ufuna ukuhlangana ngokuyimfihlo, ke ungabheke umthandi kusuka kubangani - emsebenzini, emndenini, kubangani (lapho - lapho ubuhlobo bungakunciphisa khona noma yena).
5. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ubuhlobo nomthandi kufanele bulethela injabulo nawe. Ngakho-ke, uma ubuhlobo bakho buqala, hamba esiteji somhawu, usongo enhlalakahleni yakho, ubudlova obungokwenyama nangokwengqondo, khona-ke lobu buhlobo kufanele bubekwe ngokushesha.

UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekile isayithi