Lapho nje abangane bakho, abajwayele noma izihlobo befaka isicelo ehhovisi lokubhalisa, baqala inqubo yokulungiselela umshado. Injabulo ephathelene nomcimbi ozayo iholela ekutheni zonke izingxoxo phambi komakoti nomkhwenyana zizoncishiselwa esihlokweni esisodwa. Kodwa uma umkhwenyana, ngokusemthethweni, "enomzimba obunzima", futhi kunzima ukumqeda ngombuzo othile ongenangqondo, kubonakala sengathi amazwi angenacala, elahlekile ngisho nangokweqile, ngisho nangomama wakhe, angenza umakoti abe nezinyembezi noma azizwe. Sizolinga ukuhlela imibuzo evame ukubuzwa njalo ukuze sigweme ukungaqondi kahle komshado.
WELL, NINI, NINI, NINI UKWEDA?
Ngaphambi kokubuza le mibuzo, zibeke ezicathulweni zomkhwenyana nomkhwenyana futhi ucabange ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani uma ubuzwa ngakho izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, noma, ngokubhekisela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, zibeka okuhle, ngokombono wabo, umphathi wesonto. Mhlawumbe, abakazange banqume noma yini. Kungcono ukulinda umyeni noma umakoti ukuba akhulume ngakho.
UFUNA UKUKHULULELA ISIKHATHI SAKHO
Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi umenyelwe emkhosini nhlobo? Kungenzeka ukuthi awukho ohlwini lwamamemo. Mhlawumbe, labo abasanda kushada banomkhawulo wezezimali futhi bazocela izihlobo nabangane kuphela ukuba bagubhe. Ungacabanga ukuthi umakoti "amathumba" angaphakathi kanjani: "Uphuphile, imbuzi!" Noma into enjalo, lapho yena, naphambi kwalabo "abafakizicelo" ukuba bahlanganyele emkhosini, kufanele abe namahloni akhethe amagama okuchaza izivakashi zakhe. Okungcono kakhulu ukuhalalisela abantu abasha kusengaphambili ngaphandle kokukhohlisa lapho ukhona emkhosini.
AMACEBISO OKUSEBENZA
Ngokuvame ukwenziwa yizintombi ezinomona. Bayesaba ukuthi lokho umakoti acabanga ukuthi kumnandi futhi kumnandi kukhethiweyo wakhe maduze uzoqala ukumcasula. Uma iseluleko sifanele futhi sakha, noma yiyiphi intombazane izowamukela ngokubonga, ikakhulukazi uma inikezwa owesifazane onokuhlangenwe nakho okubucayi.
UKUBA UFUNA UKUKHETHA KOMKHAYA - LOKUPHILA KWAKHO ...
Futhi shiya ukungabaza kwakho nawe. Ukuphawula ngemikhakha yobudala bomkhwenyana nomlobokazi noma ujabulele ukuhlangana okuzayo - lokhu konke ukukhuluma ukuze ukhulume. Uma ungesihlobo, umbono wakho uzoba ngumbala obomvu kuphela wezinzwa zesifo somama. Shiya umthetho omncane osemthethweni, ungathwali izinkinga zabo.
AWAKHO UKUSEBENZA IZINYE IZINDLELA
Uma le ntsha ngokwabo ingakutsheli mayelana nezindleko zomshado wakho, kunambitheka kabi ukulila "ukuphonswa emoyeni". Mhlawumbe ungayilahla imali ngenye indlela - utshalwa imali yangasese noma uhambe ngeholide. Kodwa yizona ezibuthakathaka zabasha, banelungelo lokuzilahla njengoba zibona kufanelekile. Amazwana akho angabonakala kulabo abasanda kushada okungadingekile futhi okucasulayo.
UKWEDA KUYIMPILO YABAHLULELI
Buza abenzi bomkhosi ukuthi ngabe kufanelekile ukuletha abantwana bakho nawe. Ngokuvamekile, izenzakalo ezinjalo kufanele zibe yimincintiswano yezingqikithi ezindala futhi ziphephe izivakashi - umbukiso awubantu abasha. Ngokusemthethweni, izimemo zibeka ngokucacile ukwakhiwa komndeni. Uma kukhona amagama abantu abadala, kusho ukuthi balinde kuphela umkhosi. Uma umndeni uboniswa isimemo (isibonelo, umndeni wakwa-Ivanov), ngena ngesibindi uthathe ekhaya. Uma ungenelisekile ukuthi awukwazi ukuthatha izingane zakho nawe, wenqaba isimemo. Kodwa-ke, qiniseka ukuthi uchaza isizathu, khona-ke ukungabi khona kwakho kuzohunyushwa kahle.
UMBUZO NGEZINGANE NGOKUPHAKATHI NGEMVA KOMSHADO - AKUKHONA NGOKUPHAKATHI
Awazi mayelana nezinhlelo zabasha. Mhlawumbe okwesikhashana banquma ukuziphilela kuphela, mhlawumbe kunezinhlelo zokukhula komsebenzi, emva kwalokho, kungukungacabangi ukubuza imibuzo yobuntu obuseduze kubantu abasha.