Ucabanga ukuthi kulula ukushintsha? Unqume ukulahlekelwa isisindo - futhi manje ngenyanga noma emibili unesimo esiphelele? Kwakungekho lapho! Eqinisweni, sivame ukugcizelela ukuqina kwethu futhi sibheke phansi indima yezimo ezivimbela ukuba sifinyelele umgomo.
Yingakho abantu bevame ukuyeka phansi futhi badumale ngamandla abo. Ukuvimbela lokhu kungenzeki, kuyadingeka ukuthi kusengaphambili ukuthi ngeke kube lula, wenze uhlu lwezithiyo ezingenzeka futhi uvele nezindlela zokuzinqoba. Indlela yokwenza ngayo, uthi umxhumanisi wokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu Marshall Goldsmith encwadini yakhe ethi "Triggers" (ukushicilela indlu MIF).
Lahla ukuzenzekelayo
Izimbangela nazo zonke izikhuthazo ezingashintsha ukuziphatha kwethu. Ukukhathala, ukucindezeleka kanye nokunganaki, ukuphoqelela ukuba sishiye ukuqeqeshwa, yizibonelo zokubangela kwangaphakathi. Njengokuqhamuka komdlandla kungazelelwe, ngemuva kwalokho siqala ukudlala imidlalo. Izimbangela zangaphandle zisithinta okungenani, nakuba singacabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi lokhu. Ukubukeka okukodwa, okuphonswa ikhekhe elikhangayo, kungamphoqa umuntu ukuba ayeke ukudla. Umhlangano nomngane osanda kuqala ukuya ejimini, kungakhuthaza ama-feats amasha wezemidlalo. Ngakho, impilo yethu igcwele izimpawu ezihluke kakhulu. Futhi yini okufanele ngiyenze ngakho? Njengoba usuvele uqaphele, ezinye izimbangela ziletha izinzuzo, kanti ezinye - ziphazamisa emgomweni. Umsebenzi wakho ukuzungezela kuqala futhi ufunde ukuthi ungamelana kanjani nesesibili. Futhi manje izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ngisho nokugqugquzela okungenakukhiqiza kungaba usizo. Ngokuvamile sithatha izinyathelo ngokuzenzakalelayo: ngaphandle kokucabanga sifinyelela ibhokisi lamaswidi; Esikhundleni sokuqeqeshwa kusihlwa sibheka nomndeni umbukiso wokukhuluma othakazelisayo; vula i-imeyli ngisho nangaphambi kokudla kwasekuseni futhi ngokushesha siphumelele emsebenzini, nakuba sasihlela ukwenza ekuseni. Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile ekufezeni umgomo ukukhipha ukuzenzekelayo. Zama ukuqaphela izibonakaliso ezikugoqa esikoleni esifanele. Ukuqaphela okunjalo kuzokusiza ukuba uye esiteji esilandelayo, lapho ushintsha khona imikhuba yakho. Mayelana nalokhu kamuva, kodwa qaphela ukuthi yiziphi ezinye izinhlobo zokubangela ongazihlangabeza.
Funda izimbangela zakho nezinhlobo zamasignali
Sesivele sithole ukuthi lezi zimbangela zikhiqiza futhi azikhiqizi (lokhu mhlawumbe into ebaluleke kakhulu), kanye nangaphakathi nangaphandle. Nakhu okunye ongakwenza ukuveza izinhlobo ezahlukene zokukhuthaza:
- Ukudambisa nokuphefumula. Ezinye izimbangela zisenza senze okuthile: sidle amaswidi, gcwalisa isiqandisini ngemikhiqizo ewusizo, vuka embhedeni bese uya emsebenzini. Abanye - bakucindezela ukuba uhlehlise phansi: susa isandla sakho kude namaswidi, udlule nge-cafe oyikhonzile, wenqaba ukugijima futhi uhlale ekhaya.
- Angazi futhi uyazi. Umthelela wezinye izimbangela esizibhekayo. Isibonelo, kusobala ukuthi iphunga lokupheka kukaMama, elivela ekhishini, lidala isifiso sokungenani ukukhohlwa okwesikhashana mayelana nokudla. Kodwa-ke, zikhona izimpawu ezisithinta ngokungapheli. Ngokuyinhloko, zihlanganisa isimo sezulu. Njengoba ukuhlolwa kukhonjisiwe, isimo sethu sengqondo sincike kakhulu kulo, kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abakubona.
- Iqonde futhi iya ngendlela ejikelezayo. Uza ukuvakashela, ubona itafula eliphekwe ngokukhululekile, futhi izandla zakho zidonsa ezenzakalweni, kepha ukudla okumnandi. Lesi yisibonelo sokuqala okuqondile. Kodwa lokhu kungase kube isignali engavamile: endleleni yokusebenza, ubona ngengozi umuntu onesisindo esiningi, bese ucabanga ngendlela yakho yokuphila, futhi kusihlwa wathenga ukubhalisa esikhungweni sempilo.
- Kungalindelekile futhi kubikezelwe. Singazwa kuphela izibonakaliso eyodwa kuphela. Siyazi ukuthi bazothinta kanjani, ukuze sikwazi ukulungiselela umhlangano nabo kusengaphambili. Futhi ezinye izimbangela zisishukumisa. Yingakho kufanele ufunde ukuwabona futhi ulungise ukuziphatha kwakho.
Zama ukuphuma emthonjeni womkhuba
Ubuchopho bethu bukhetha ngokuzenzakalelayo indlela elula futhi alinga ukumelana lapho uhlangana nomunye umcibisholo. Kodwa uma ufunda ukunaka izibonakaliso ezahlukene futhi uxhuma amandla okuthanda ngesikhathi, ke, uma ufisa, ushintshe kalula indlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha. Yonke imikhuba yethu ihlelwe ngendlela engavamile. Ziqukethe izinyathelo ezintathu: i-trigger - yokusabela - umvuzo. Isibonelo, kubantu abanesisindo esiningi ngokweqile, ngokuvamile noma yikuphi ukuqala, ukucindezeleka, umuzwa wokuzizwa unesizungu uba yintambo; ukusabela - uhambo oluya e-diner eliseduzane; futhi umvuzo ukukhululwa okwesikhashana kwengxabano. Kulesi simo, ungashintsha isici esiphakathi ngenye into. Udinga nje ukukhetha imodeli yokuziphatha ehlukile ezosiza ukuzola phansi ezimweni ezicindezelayo: ugijime epaki, udlale ngekati noma udonse kumculo owuthandayo. Kunenye indlela. Zama ukugwema izimpawu ezingenakukhiqiza: khetha indlela evela emsebenzini ukuze ungahlangabezane ne-cafe yokudla okusheshayo; vele izitolo zokudla nokunye okunjalo. Yiqiniso, lokhu ngeke kwenzeke ngazo zonke izimbangela, kodwa kuphela kulabo esingakwazi ukubikezela.
Thola isisusa sakho
Manje uyazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga ezingakhiwa, kodwa ungenza okunye okunye. Zizungeze izimpawu eziwusizo ezizokugqugquzela ukuba usebenze ngokwakho. Uqaphele ukuthi ukukhulumisana nomunye wabangane bakho kukugqugquzela ukudlala ezemidlalo? Hlangana nalo muntu kaningi. Ingabe uvame ukuphuthelwa ukusebenza esikhungweni sempilo? Thola ukubhalisa, khona-ke uzofuna ukwenza umzamo wokukhokha. Ingabe uyaphupha ukungena ngengubo oyithandayo? Ngokuqinisekile usenayo izithombe kusukela ngalezo zikhathi lapho isibalo sakho sisavunyelwe ukusigqoka. Bafake endaweni evelele kakhulu. Uma umgomo wakho ukwehlisa isisindo, njalo nsuku zonke, zibuze: "Ngenze konke namuhla ukuze ngiye ekudleni okulungile?", "Ngenze konke namuhla ukuze ngiye ejimini?", "Ngenzé namuhla konke okusemandleni ukuze ube mncane? "Phendula le mibuzo ngokubhala. Amarekhodi anjalo ngokwawo angaba yinhlobonhlobo yokukhiqiza, okuzokwenza ukuba ushintshe.
Okunye okuningi mayelana namasignali angaphandle naphakathi okuthinta ukuziphatha kwakho, ungafunda encwadini ethi "Abaqashi"