Kukhona umbono wokuthi abesifazane basebenze ngokuphelele ukuvinjelwa kwabantu abahlala emkhayeni ozinzile, wesikhathi eside. Njengoba efihla ngemuva kwemibono yokulingana, ngaleyo ndlela asebenzisana nabesifazane kuphela, ngokuqinisekile becabanga ukuthi indoda, uma ingesona isitha esiqondile sowesifazane, endaweni ethile eduze nalokhu, kulokhu owesifazane uhlale ehlupheka futhi enzima. Iyini ithonya lobufazi emndenini?
Umndeni kanye nobudlova
Uma ubukazi besimpilo somfazi wesifazane, khona-ke indoda esesithombeni ingumfokazi, "imininingwane" eyengeziwe ewusizo ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa hhayi nakancane nongowesifazane ngokwakhe. Abesifazane abavumelana nemibono yobufazi ekuqaleni abacabangi ngokulondoloza umndeni emva kwemizwa "ikhulile phansi." Kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuthi abesifazane basuke besho ukuthi ubulili besifazane buqede owesilisa, okungenani okungenani okungalungile, uma uthando seluvele selufile, futhi ukuphila ndawonye kwaba nzima. Hhayi, futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi abantu abanakho ukuhluleka, cishe cishe yonke imindeni ihlukana. Ukuba khona kwezingane emndenini akudali nendima, ngoba into esemqoka yowesifazane yedwa, futhi izingane zingenza ngaphandle kobaba. Emva kwakho konke, imithetho eminye yemithetho yobufazi - "ingane akudingeki ibe nobaba nomama, ngokwanele ukuthi uyayithanda nje."
Abesifazane abakucabangi futhi kalula bahlukane namadoda abo, kanti abazami ukuhlala ngaphandle kokukhathazeka, kodwa umndeni ozinzile, obalulekile ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukiseni izingane. Izingane ezikhuliswa emindenini ephukile zivame ukukhuthazelela ukuziphatha kwabazali babo ekuphileni kwabo. Ngelinye igama, ukungakwazi ukuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile, ukungakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obude obude, "kuhlelwe". Ngakho-ke, abesifazane basondela ngokuqinisekisayo ukuthi isizukulwane esilandelayo sabantu siyoba yisizukulwane sabantu abazungu. Isibonelo esinjalo sinikezwa ama-ideologist wesifazane - cishe zonke izikhathi eziningi zahlukana "nengxenye" yazo.
U-Feminism kuvimbela ukudala komndeni ovamile
Omunye wemithetho eyisisekelo kakhulu yesifazane uthi "ubulili besilisa buye kwacindezelwa amakhulu eminyaka ngabesifazane, kuzo zonke izindlela bawasusa futhi bafuna ukulalela kwabo nokunciphisa." Futhi okwesifazane manje uye wavumela owesifazane ukuba azizwe ilungu eligcwele lomphakathi - elilinganayo nelingenamthetho. Yiqiniso, i-ideologists yama-feminism ayivumelani nokukhona komqondo onjalo, njengoba wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi u-egocentricity onamandla uma eqhathaniswa namadoda. Isifiso sokuba noma okungenani sibonakale "singumnikazi wezwe" yisimilo sabammeli abaningana besifazane, kodwa ngokuphila okulula kuyeka ukungafani okukhulu kwamathuba okufeza lo mgomo.
Omunye uzobuza ukuthi ubuphi ubufazi? Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, ukuthi labo abathintekayo besifazane besondela "emkhathini" basuke baziqhenya futhi bazikhukhumeze (kukhona amacala uma kulungile, futhi kukhona - ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, kodwa ususe). Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ikhono lokubheka ngaphandle "izibuko ezibomvu" kuwe ngokweqile libuthakathaka kakhulu (njengoba "babejwayele ukukhohliswa yizinhloko zabo ezibonakala zikhubazekile, kodwa manje bakhululekile" - ngegama elithi, "udizizi nokuphumelela"). Ngakho-ke, phakathi nokuhlolwa "kokukhululekile" kwakhe kubheka emhlabeni jikelele, owesifazane uthola ukuthi labo abafanelwe izimfanelo zakhe ezinkulu abamele abesilisa cishe akunakho (futhi uma kukhona, sebevele bahlala noma "abesilisa", ngakho-ke nabo abafanelekile) . Uma ukuzihlonipha okunjalo kungenangqondo - owesifazane angazwelana nje kuphela, kodwa abantu abanjalo (ngokuzihlonipha ngokweqile, abesifazane noma amadoda) kuncane kakhulu. Cishe bonke abantu banesilinganiso sezimfanelo zabo. Ukwakha i-pair babezobe besondelene nomuntu ofanayo ojwayelekile. Kodwa akunjalo! Ubunqunu bubeka owesifazane isizungu kunokudala umndeni onomuntu ovamile. Ngoba ngaphansi kwe "hit" ngokuzenzekela bawe cishe wonke amadoda angase enze owesifazane umbhangqwana oshadile. Futhi abantu bangaphila impilo ende yokuthula (mhlawumbe ngaphandle kokushisekela okukhulu noma ngaphandle kokujabula okukhulu, kodwa kahle). Futhi kufanelekile ukusho ukuthi yi-feminism okungukusola lolu lonono ngokuphelele.