Isimo sengqondo sokuziphendulela empilweni yezocansi, indlela yokuphila - konke lokhu kubonisa kakhulu isimo sezinhlelo zakho zokuzala. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, kuthinta izinga nokuzinza kobudlelwane emndenini wakho kanye nempilo yakho jikelele.
Ngisho nasebusheni nasekukhuleni, isisekelo sempilo yethu yokuzala siyadalwa, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuqapha isimo somzimba wakho, futhi uma kunesidingo, unganqikazi ukuxhumana nochwepheshe ukuze uthole usizo. Okokuqala, lo msebenzi uhlala nabazali, bese thina ngokwethu sithatha i-baton ukuze sinakekele umzimba wethu. Kukholelwa kakhulu ukuthi owesifazane onempilo kuphela ongakwazi ukubeletha ingane enempilo. Kodwa kukhona ubufakazi bokuthi ngaphandle kwemibhangqwana engu-100 abangenayo izingane, ezimweni ezingu-40-60% lezi zimo zibangelwa ukungabi namuntu, okungabangwa izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, umthelela empilweni yamadoda yezimo ezingavumelekile zendawo, imikhuba emibi nezimo zokusebenza. Ngakho-ke, ekuhleleni umndeni, ukugcina impilo yokuzala yamadoda nayo idlala indima enkulu.
Ochwepheshe bezikhungo zezokwelapha ezikhethekile noma izikhungo zokuhlela umndeni benza ucwaningo oluphelele lwabesilisa nabesifazane, futhi uma kutholakala izinkinga zempilo, ukwelashwa kunqunywe. Ezikhathini ezinjalo, ukunakekelwa okuningi kubhalwa izindlela zokuvimbela ukukhipha isisu nokukhulelwa okungafuneki, kanye nokweluleka kwengqondo kwabesifazane, ukuze bangathathi izinyathelo eziphuthumayo mayelana nokukhipha isisu ngenxa yethonya lokuhluleka kokuphila kanye nokuphulukiswa komzwelo okwesikhashana. Cabanga ukuthi impilo yokuzala iyathinteka yilokho okusemandleni akho: ukucindezeleka, ukuguqulwa kweminyaka, ukungondleki, ukuphila kocansi nokuthi uvikelwe kanjani, noma ngabe uzizwa ungcono nokuthi awunayo i-tangible isikhathi sokubhekisela kochwepheshe. Futhi esimweni lapho kunemibuzo mayelana nempilo yakho, kungcono ukuxhumana nabaqeqeshiwe, kunokuthembela ekuboniseni abangane noma izintombi.
Izincomo zongcweti ekulondolozeni impilo yokuzala yabesifazane:
- Cabanga ukuthi ubudala obuhle bokubeletha kwengane noma eziningana kungu-20-35 iminyaka. Ochwepheshe banebufakazi bokuthi uma owesifazane ekhulelwa ngokushesha noma kamuva, inqubo ngokwalo ingabangela izinkinga eziningi, ezithinta ukukhubazeka komama nengane. Ungasheshisi kakhulu ngokuzalwa kwengane, kepha ungaqiniseki kakhulu.
- Izikhathi eziphakanyisiwe phakathi kokuzalwa kufanele kube okungenani iminyaka engu-2-2.5, njengoba lokhu kunikeza lona wesifazane ithuba lokubuyisela amandla, ukulondoloza impilo yakhe kanye nezingane zekusasa.
- Ochwepheshe bathi ukukhipha isisu kuyindlela eyingozi kakhulu yokuphazamisa ukukhulelwa okungadingeki, ngakho-ke kuwukuhlakanipha ukuyigwema ngokusebenzisa izindlela zanamuhla zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa.
- Uma kunjalo, ukukhulelwa kwenzekile futhi kwenziwa isinqumo sokukhipha isisu, owesifazane kufanele axoxe nodokotela ngokushesha, ngoba lokhu kunciphisa ingozi yezinkinga ngemuva nangesikhathi sokukhipha isisu.
- Kukhona ithuba lokukhulelwa emva kokubeletha noma ukukhipha isisu ngaphambi kokufika esikhathini sokuqala. Ngaphambi kokuba uphinde uqale umsebenzi wocansi, kuyadingeka ukhethe indlela yokuvimbela ukukhulelwa okuzohambisana nawe futhi ithembeke.
- Izimbangela ezivame ukungabi nabantwana emadodeni nakwabesifazane kungaba izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Uma uthola lezi, udinga ukuziphatha ngokushesha, ungalibali isikhathi futhi ungabi namahloni ngesifo sakho.
- Uma ungahle uhlele ukuba nengane esikhathini esizayo, cabangela iphuzu elibalulekile njengokukhulelwa kwemithi. Iqeda ukukhathazeka nokungadingekile okungadingekile, ikhuthaza ukuphila okubambisana kakhulu, futhi kusiza ukugwema izinkinga ezingadingeki.