Ngaki kaningi sikufakazela ukuziphatha kwethu ukuthi ubuvila buzelwe ngaphambi kwethu. Futhi kungakanani okungashiwo izaga nezaga mayelana nobuvila, ukuze uthole ukulungiswa okuphelele. Kodwa namanje, ukungahambisani kwabantu akukwazi ukulungiswa yizabelo ze-banal namazwi. Kubalulekile ukulwa nale nhlekelele eyingozi phezu kwakho ngobuvila.
Ngingaziphoqa kanjani ukuba ngilahle ubuvila. Kunezinhlobo eziningana zobuvila:
ubuhlakani;
umzimba;
umqondo;
ukudala;
i-pathological;
ukungafani phakathi kokufunayo nokwangempela.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokulwa nalesi ubuvila:
inengqondo;
umzimba;
umqondo;
ubungane;
ingqondo;
okwesikhashana.
Lezi zindlela zomzabalazo zingasetshenziswa zombili ndawonye kanye nohlobo ngalunye ngokwehlukana. Ngosizo lendlela enengqondo, ungakwazi ukulwa nobuvila obungokwenyama: ukuqeda umsebenzi ongasadingekile womzimba, isibonelo, udinga ukufaka izimvilophu eziningi ngezinhlamvu, ubanikeze inhlangano yesithathu, lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba ucabange. Kulokhu, ungahlanganisa izindlela eziningana ezahlukene - ezinobungane nezomzwelo: futhi, ubuyele ezivulophini, umeme abangani bakho, bazokusiza ngenjabulo. Uzokwenza umsebenzi osheshayo futhi uthole isimo sengqondo esihle.
Indlela enengqondo ukucabanga ngemisebenzi kanye nokuhlangana kwabo okunengqondo. Hlela ngokufanele ukuzithokozisa noma umsebenzi wakho. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukubeka imisebenzi encane kuqala futhi kancane kancane uye esimweni esikhulu. Ukwenza lokhu noma lokho, ungabhadela umvuzo wakho, ukuvuselela isifiso sokwenza.
Indlela enengqondo ikusindisa isikhathi nomzamo, ngaphandle kokuvumela ubuvila bungene ezindabeni zakho. Ephelele, bese ubuvila buzobalekela.
Indlela yokulwa nobuvila ngokomzimba ihilela ukusebenza nomzimba. Ngokuvamile sikhohlwe ukuthi umzimba wethu udinga ukuphumula. Uma uhlushwa umzimba wakho nengqondo ngomsebenzi, isikhathi esincane osishiye ukudlala imidlalo. Ngakho sidonsa umzimba wethu futhi siqala ukuvilapha. Ukuze unciphise ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa kufanele ufunde ukuphumula. Yenza imisebenzi ethile evamile ngenkathi usebenza, ukhulula ukucindezeleka. Ingabe ukuvocavoca okuphefumulayo.
Indlela yokubhekana nobuvila ingokomzwelo . Lesi yisiqondiso somzwelo wakho ngendlela efanele. Ngosizo lomzwelo ungakwazi ukulwa nobuvila. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yini okukugqugquzela lokhu noma lowo msebenzi, nokuthi yimiphi imizwelo ekunika yona.
Indlela enobungane yokubhekana nobuvila. Lona ukusetshenziswa komphakathi ngokwabo, kodwa ngesinye isimo, uma usuze wabasiza noma uzobasiza esikhathini esizayo. Ngale ndlela ungakunqoba ubuvila ngokwengqondo, ngosizo lwezeluleko ezivela kubangani. Futhi ngobuvila ngokomzimba, ungaphinde ubhekane nosizo lwabangani, isibonelo, uye echibini.
Indlela engokwengqondo yokunqoba ubuvila. Kufanele wenze uhlu lwezinqubo zengqondo ezikuvumela ukuba wenze ngokusebenza kahle, phakamisa isimo sakho sengqondo nalabo abaseduze nawe. Ukwamukelwa kwengqondo kuzosebenza kangcono uma uzidumisa ngento yonke. Ubuvila kuvame ukufika uma unenkinga yokucindezeleka.
Enye indlela yokunqoba ubuvila yesikhashana. Qala ekuseni ngebhizinisi elingathandeki kuwe, ngokwesibonelo, yenza ucingo ukuthi awufuni ukukwenza ngenkani. Futhi ungikholelwe, uzomuzwa wokuthi uzizwa ungcono emphefumulweni wakho. Ngoba ngeke ulinde isikhathi eside uma wenze le kholi.
Ubuvila obunobunzima obukhethekile busebenza kumuntu, kancane kancane kumshiya ikusasa eliphumelelayo empilweni. Khumbula iqiniso elingenakuguquguquka: "Ungalibali ukusa kusasa, yini engenziwa namhlanje!".