Imfundiso
Isekelwe ekutadisheni izinqubo zezinto eziphilayo ezivela emzimbeni ngenqubo yothando.
Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Sithanda lowo okuvela kuye izingane ezinempilo nezihlakaniphile ezingazalwa. Futhi uma sihlangana, sihlola umuntu ngokwemininingwane yakhe yangaphandle - ingabe unamandla ngokwanele ukuba abe nobulili: yibuphi ububanzi obunamahlombe nompristi oqinile. Futhi ezingeni le-reflex sibheka iphunga lomzimba wakhe ukuze siqaphele ukuthi izindaba zakhe zinokuzivikela kanjani kanye nezinga lama hormone ocansi, ukuthi usondelene kangakanani nezakhi zofuzo. Ngokuqhubekayo lowo ozobhapathizwa ususwa kuwe ngekhodi ye-DNA yakhe, okungenani kuyingozi yokuba nomntwana onesifo esivela kuye. Uma iphunga lomuntu lingathandeki kuwe, ngeke kube khona uthando - lo mfakisicelo akafanelekile ukukhulelwe nokuzalwa kwezingane. Futhi ingqondo kanye nengokomoya yomlingani zihlolwe endaweni yokugcina - ngokusho komgomo wokuhlala.
Uthando
Lapho ubona indoda ekhangayo, umzimba wakho uthi: "Ngiyidinga, ngiyakwazi ukuyibeletha!" Uhlangabezana nokukhangwa ngokocansi futhi ukhathazekile: "Futhi ungayithola kanjani?" I-hormone yokucindezeleka i-norepinephrine ingena egazini. Imizwa iyancipha, izinhlanzi zenhliziyo, ama-rub rub. Ebusuku, akakwazi ukulala, emini, ukukhathazeka kudliwe, abanye abantu baze balahlekelwe isifiso sabo futhi banike isisindo. Kodwa uhlangane futhi ulala ocansini. Ukucindezeleka kwehlisa, i-norepinephrine iyawa. Kodwa ukuhlanganiswa kwama-neurohormones e-ecstasy, injabulo kanye nenjabulo - i-dopamine ne-serotonin iyanda. I-dopamine yi-hormone yemigomo, igxila emcimbini owodwa, ukugqugquzela ukufutheka nomthombo omuhle kakhulu wamandla. Labo abalawulwa ukuphuma kwawo, aboni lutho nxazonke ngaphandle kwabathandekayo babo, futhi ngenxa yalokho bangakwazi ukuguqula izintaba. Umzwelo ushintsha kusuka "kubonakala sengathi, uthanda, manje ngizophakamisa," kuze kube "kubonakala sengathi ayithandi - futhi angizibophezele" ... Iningi, uthando luqala ku-dopamine futhi luya phambili kunoma yi-serotonin. Unesibopho somzwelo ojabulisayo: ulungile, futhi othandekayo wakho umane nje uyisimangaliso, futhi izwe lihle. Futhi ungabhala inkondlo? Kungenzeka yini ukuqoqa umbiko wekota ngo-amahora amabili? Isiteji se-ejection ye-dopamine ne-serotonin - lesi simo esabekayo kakhulu sothando olujabulisayo nesothando, ukuze sisinde kulokho esikuphuphayo. Yiqiniso, ukushintsha okufanayo kwezinto eziphilayo - nokuphazanyiswa kokulala nokuqonda kweqiniso - kuvela kulabo abadlala i-roulette, utshani obuthuliwe noma bawela engqondweni ye-schizophrenic ... Woza! I-hormone-romance inamandla kakhulu unyaka wonke, ukuze abathandi bavame ukulala ocansini bese bekhulelwa ingane. Khona-ke izinga labo liyehla - konke, uthando luphelile. Eminye imibhangqwana ibukana ngombukiso ocacile - bese ibalekela ngokuthuthumela.
Uthando lobuzwe
Ama-pair amabili asele "amahomoni othando" ajojowe eminye iminyaka emibili kuya kweyithathu. Owesifazane uyakwazi ukuncelisa ingane ngesifuba, nendoda-ukuze imnakekele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, owesifazane uyakwazi ukusinda ngaphandle komlingani. Manje isiteji sothando siphelile. Ngakho-ke, ukuphakama kwehlukaniso kuwela ngomnyaka wesihlanu womshado.
Uthando-uthando
Usuhlangene? Ngakho, umzimba wakho uhlose ukukhulisa ingane nalomlingani. Ikhiqiza i-oxytocin engaphezulu - ihomoni yethando nomusa, futhi i-vasopressin - i-hormone evikela impahla nomhawu: "Yami - ungathinti!" Uthando oluthandana nalo lunikeza umuzwa wezinzwa ngisho nangomnene. Ngemuva kweminyaka eyi-10, imithombo ye-hormone ayitholakali, ngoba ingane ikhule. Futhi uthando seludlulile, ngoba incazelo yalo ukuzala nalena muntu. Yiqiniso, kunamabhangqwana ukuthi ngisho nangonyaka weshumi nanhlanu womshado izinga lama-hormone lihambisana nezigaba zokuqala zobudlelwane. Itholakale ososayensi base-Italy. Futhi manje uyamangala ukuthi lokhu kungaba kanjani.
Yini ebhalansi
Mhlawumbe awukaze uthandane nothando lothando ngenxa yokuthi ngokwemvelo ungaphansi kwezidingo ze-dopamine ne-serotonin? Ukukhangwa ngokomzimba kuyinto. Ngothando oluqinile, nge-oxytocin ne-vazoiresin, uyakwazi. Futhi "ikhanda ladilizwa" isigaba - cha. Futhi ngeke kube khona. Akuhlelwe kanjalo. Futhi akukho lutho olulindele.
Imbangela nomphumela
- I-Karmic Theory
Isekelwe ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwesizathu nomphumela. Umphefumulo awufi, awunayo ucansi, futhi awukhumbuli lutho lokuphila okudala. Uma wenze okuthile okubi, ngokuphindaphindiwe uzothola izinkinga nokuhlupheka - hhayi kulokhu kuphila, ngakho okulandelayo. Wenze kahle - isibusiso silindele wena, hhayi manje-ngakho-ke, kodwa kuyisibopho. Futhi kukhona uthando lwezinhlobo ezimbili.
- Uthando "karmic"
Akuyona i-superprize ku-lottery yothando, kodwa inkinga yakho engathíswanga ingaguquki kusuka ekufakweni kwangaphambili. Futhi unikezwa ngokusebenzela i-karma embi - ukulungisa amaphutha adlule. Kulungile kakhulu ukuyibiza ngokuthi "i-karma ehlisiwe".
Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Uthando lubambisana nabashadile noma izihlobo eziseduze eziye zacasula kakhulu ekuphileni okudlule. Lapho sebezibophezele futhi baqedwa. Futhi manje sathola ithuba lokulungisa konke. Akunakwenzeka ukuyigwema - yidwala.
Kubonakala kanjani
Kubangelwa ukubuka kuqala: uyibone - ukushaqeka, ikhanda inkungu enemibala. Futhi ukukhala okuvela ekujuleni komphefumulo: "Yilokho!" Uthando luhlala luvame futhi lunomdlandla, intukuthelo enjalo yemizwa ixosha lo mbhangqwana ndawonye isikhathi esidingekayo sokuxazulula inkinga evamile. Ngezinye izikhathi - iminyaka eminingana, futhi umuntu nokuphila konke akwanele. Futhi baphila kabi, kodwa abakwazi ukuhlanganyela. Ngokuvamile - engenabantwana, ngoba izingane zingabaphazamisa abazali bazo emisebenzini ye-karmic. Ake sithi owesifazane washada, wazala futhi wagula kakhulu. Indoda ayizange inikeze umkayo nezingane zakhe, kodwa ngesaba yabalekela komunye - eqine futhi enempilo. Umkakhe waqalekisa, kodwa akazange avumele ukuhamba noNkulunkulu, njengomuntu obuthakathaka futhi ongenalutho. Bathuthukisa i-karma: ukungabi nabulungisa, yena-ukungathetheleli. Ukukhipha le knot karmic, abashadile kufanele balungise iphutha. Esikhathini samanje, bahlangana othandweni oluvuthayo lapho bebona kuqala nomshado osheshayo. Eminyakeni emihlanu kamuva kuvela ukuthi umyeni wakhe ugula kakhulu. Khona-ke izenzakalo zingathuthuka futhi ziphele ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Ukuphela okuhle
Umyeni wakhe uhluma imisebenzi emithathu futhi unikeza umndeni, ekuphileni okunzima, umkakhe uyashintsha. Umkakhe uyamthethelela futhi amthokozise. Hamba! Iphuzu livuliwe. Khona-ke imizwa iyaphela - lokhu kuyimpahla ejwayelekile yothando oluhle lwe-karmic. Umfazi uhamba ngcono. Umyeni uhlangana nothando olusha. Lo mbhangqwana uhlukanisile. Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, owake wangena naye ushada naye. Yena futhi uzizwa ukuthi ashintshile ukuze kube ngcono, umphefumulo usuqalile, impilo ithuthukile.
Ukuphela okubi
Indoda isiphuza ngokusizi noma ifuna ukuphazamisa, ngemuva kwesiketi ngasinye, umfazi uhlupheka, ufunga futhi ahlasele. Abakwazi ukuhlala ndawonye futhi abakwazi ukuhlakazeka. Ekugcineni, oshade naye ogulayo uyafa, futhi umyeni uphonsa ikhanda lakhe ngokumelene nesembozo sebhokisi futhi uzizwa enecala. Futhi emzimbeni olandelayo bazophinde bahlangane futhi bazobhujiswa "uthando karmic" - baze babe nomqondo okwanele wokuziphatha ngesithunzi ekuhlolweni.
Uthando "luyiqiniso"
Kuhloselwe labo abanakho konke ngokuhambisana ne-karma, futhi akuhlali njalo kuhlotshaniswa nezenzo zethu ezithombeni zangaphambilini.
Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Uthando lwangempela luvela ezimweni ezimbili. Owokuqala: imiphefumulo exhunyiwe ekufakweni kwangaphambili ngezenzo ezinhle-abangane, omunye wabo owenziwe emzimbeni wesilisa, noma umfowabo nodadewabo, noma umama nomshana, bahlangana futhi baqaphelane. Empeleni, kuwumvuzo wokuziphatha okuhle nezenzo ezinhle embusweni owedlule. Okwesibili: Uthando luzalwa phakathi kwabantu abangaxhunyiwe kwizakhi zangaphambili, kodwa bayakwazi ukuhamba ndawonye embuthanweni omusha wezokuthuthukiswa - ukungena komunye umphakathi noma ukuthola ithalenta elisha kuwe. Ngokuvamile uthando lomphefumulo "omusha" usekelwe ekubalweni futhi luvela engqondweni kuya kumzwelo. Usebenza ngehora lesishiyagalombili ubusuku bonke emsebenzini othile futhi anqume ukushada, ngakho-ke kukhona igama okumelwe akhulume naye, futhi unesizungu kakhulu impilo futhi ugxile emsebenzini.
Kubonakala kanjani
Uthando lukhula kancane kancane kancane kancane. Amehlo akhe awafihlezi futhi ikhanda lakhe alihlosi. Ekuqaleni kubonakala sengathi kuthobekile, ngaphandle kwezibhamu, kodwa njenge-dinner enhle: okuqhubekayo-okuyi-tastier nokumnandi nakakhulu. Kungadlulela amashumi eminyaka.
Yini ebhalansi
U-"Karmic" uthando akuyona isijeziso, kodwa umsebenzi odinga isixazululo. Uma sesiphelile ngesisombululo senkinga, sekuyisikhathi sokufuna uthando lweqiniso. Uthando "lweqiniso" luyinto enhle. Futhi ukuthola akulula. Ukuzikhethela kwabathandekayo kuhle: ezungeze lapho kukhona amadoda amaningi, imiphefumulo yawo ekufakweni kwethu kwangaphambili ibe nobuhlobo obuhle. Noma labo abafanelekayo okwamanje, ukuze bahlakulele futhi bavuthiwe ndawonye.
Injongo
- Ithiyori engacacile
Ngokwehlukahluka okuhlukene kanye neziqephu, uhamba ngemisebenzi yabalobi banoveli, ama-mystics yanamuhla abhala ngaye ngokuthuthumela.
- Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Siyamthanda lowo esingakwazi ukuzibona yena ngokwakhe, ngoba uyakwamukela futhi akusize ube njengomuntu okhulelwe nguNkulunkulu noma i-Cosmos - hhayi ngempela ingelosi enomusa, mhlawumbe ngisho nengqondo ye-villainy. Umuntu wakho kuphela ohlangene nawe esikhaleni se-energy-ulwazi ngecebo laseZulwini. Ikusasa lakho likuphonsela emhlanganweni, futhi ngokushesha uzolithola. Ngokweqile, awukwazi ukushiya indlu: endlini i-wiring izokhanya - futhi umuntu oshisayo uyofika ngokuphuthumayo ukuze akulondoloze, noma ipayipi izoqhuma - futhi iplumberhi ekhohlisa iyoyilungisa. Lokhu akucaci ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma izulu lakho lolo lover lithatha ingozi noma isifo. U-Toli kuzodingeka abe ngaphandle kwakhe, noma uzothathelwa omunye umuntu ozokhethwa kusukela "emgqeni wesibili" - ngoba wonke owesifazane usekwe indoda ebulalayo.
- Kubonakala kanjani
Akunakwenzeka ukuqagela ukuthi lena "indoda yakho": wena ovela emhlanganweni wokuqala uyamangalisa futhi ukhululekile, njengokungathi uwazi isikhathi eside. Unesondo esihle kakhulu. Ukuphila okuhlangene akuwona umsebenzi onzima wokwakha umndeni, kodwa inqubo yemvelo, njengokuphefumula, engadingi izimangaliso zokubekezela nokunciphisa. Uphikisana, kodwa ungalokothi uhlushwa futhi uhlushwa omunye nomunye. Ngothando, uthola injabulo enkulu. Kodwa konke okunye okuphilayo kungase kuhambe kahle: UBon akazange ahlangane noClyde, futhi bahamba babamba amabhange, uMenenja ophezulu uMasha wathandana no-Yura owayengumbonisi futhi washiya ehlane, lapho kungekho khona isiko noma induduzo. Kodwa asifuni njalo ukuphanga amabhange noma ukuhlala ehlathini, ngisho nangenxa yothando olukhulu. Ngakho-ke, siyalahla lothando oluhlosiwe futhi sikhetha zonke izinhlobo zenjabulo enjabulweni yothando - okuhle kwezingane, ukuphepha, umsebenzi ogcwalisiwe, inhlalakahle.
- Yini ebhalansi
Futhi kuthiwani uma owesifazane oshadile efika kuwe ngemva kwesikhumbuzo seminyaka eyikhulu leminyaka? Kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukungalindeli, kodwa ujabulele - ngisho noma kungenjalo uthando olungenisiwe, kodwa ubulili, ubuhlobo obuhle nokufudumele namanye amadoda. Umhlangano uzohlangana - ulinde iveli enhle. Kusukela othandweni olulungiselelwe ngaphambili, akufanele ukwenqabe ngaphandle kokulihlwaya. Ngakho-ke akuvamile ukuthi sifuna ngempela into - ngempela, ngekhanda lethu, intambo yomgogodla, inhliziyo nenyama ... Futhi - njengoba unquma, kuyoba njalo. Uma uyilahlekile futhi ungazami, uzokhathala futhi uhlushwa.
Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Owesifazane uthandana nomuntu obukeka njengobaba. Uma kungekho ubaba - esikoleni kukhona umfanekiso womuntu obenakekela umfowabo, umalume, umkhulu wakhe. Kulokho konke okumele kube khona kumuntu kubonakala kuye. Konke okunye, ngisho nakakhulu kangako, kaningi akatholi amadoda. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi akaqapheli ngisho. Umfana uthanda owesifazane obukeka njengomama wakhe. Kufika ekukhohliseni. Umngane wami oneminyaka engu-30 ubudala ukhononda ngokuthi uselokhu eziphatha njengomamazala kamva. Futhi kuyesabeka kakhulu kuye - uninazala, akakwazi ukuma. Kodwa akanayo ukwesaba: ufana nomkhwekazi wakhe nobuso bakhe nobuntu bakhe, lapho indoda yakhe yathandana khona. Futhi abahambisani nomama kanina ngoba bafana kakhulu futhi banomona nomyeni nomunye nomunye.
Kubonakala kanjani
Isitayela seveli yethu sincike ekutheni ubuhlobo nomzali wobulili obuhlukile. Okokuqala kwakunakekela futhi kwathandeka indodakazi njalo - intombazane izwa kulabo abakhethiweyo abanomqondo olingana novumelanayo, ngokufisa ngokocansi nokunamathiselwe ngokomzwelo.
Option Three
Ubaba wayengathandanga indodakazi yakhe kakhulu, noma engazange neze - wanyamalala ngemuva kwesahlukaniso futhi akazange athumele noma yikuphi ukubingelela. Le ntombazane izothambekela ukuwa phansi lapho ibona kuqala futhi izwakala: izwi elizwakalayo noma libone isandla somuntu omuhle ngeminwe ende-njengobaba-futhi yanyamalala! Lesi sithando sinocansi kakhulu kunokomzwelo. Futhi lolu luthando oluya ocansini luyafaneleka, ngoba luvumela owesifazane ukuba angene phezu kwesivinini sokungaqondani kwamadoda nokwesaba kwabo. Ngenkathi uthando oludangayo luzodlula - buka, futhi uqonde uhlamvu lwakhe. Futhi uyobe ethandana naye. Akusi njalo njalo ngaleyo ndlela, kodwa kaningi okwanele.
Option Four
Uma ubaba wentombazane engekho, uthanda isithandwa futhi ukhetha umyeni osekhulile-ubaba. Ubulili buyingcosana, kepha kunemizwa eminingi eqotho.
Yini ebhalansi
Ngokwalolu mbono, uthando luhlala luthandana futhi luthandana. Uma ulahlekelwa phansi phansi kwezinyawo zakho - othandekayo uzokukhipha. Uma uzizwa ungalungile, uzozizwa futhi uphuthume, "use-inthanethi" naye. Isimo sakho sempilo nesimo sengqondo sincike othandekayo: kuyabuhlungu - nawe nawe, uyabuhlungu - futhi udabukile. Futhi uma othile ephika okunamathiselwe - manje kuyimfashini - futhi uthi othandweni udinga ukuba "uzimele futhi ukhululekile", kusuka kumuntu onothando othanda inkululeko, kufanele ugijime ngokushesha kakhulu. Ngoba ufuna ukukusebenzisa ukuze uthole uhlelo olugcwele - kokubili ngokobulili, ngokomzwelo, nangokwezimali, kodwa ngeke anikeze noma yikuphi ukubuyisa - noma ubulili obuvamile, nozwela, noma ubuhlobo obuhle. Emphefumulweni wawo wonke wesifazane kukhona umqondo wokuthi ungumuntu onjani ongathanda ukuba ngaphandle nokuziphatha kwakhe. Lesi sithombe sibizwa ngokuthi "i-animus". Emphefumulweni wendoda yonke kunesithombe esifanayo somfazi angathanda ukuba, esibizwa ngokuthi "anime".
Ubani nokuthi yini esikhethayo
Owesifazane uthanda umuntu onezici ze-animus yakhe, ukuze azitholele ingxenye yezwe lamadoda ayidinga. Indoda yiyo ebonakala njenge-anime yakhe, ngoba idinga umhlaba wesifazane othakazelisayo. Futhi kulokhu, uthando lwabo luqinile futhi lude kakhulu - siyaqonda kahle ukuthi ubani oyingxenye yobuntu bethu. Lolu thando lungabuthana ndawonye okungalindelekile, ekuqaleni kokubuka, umbhangqwana. Isibonelo, cishe isazi sezingane esingcwele, esindisa ukuphila kwezinsana ezisanda kuzalwa, nomuntu ozovela eMoscow ozovela emlandweni wezenzakalo zomhlaba ohlambalaza odweba abadumile ukuhlafuna noma ukuphuza emsi, futhi uyakhokhwa: omagazini - izithombe, izinkanyezi - ukwenqaba ukushicilela. Uyamthanda, ngoba uhamba phezu kwanoma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa futhi akanandaba nokuziphatha komphakathi. Futhi wathi - ngenxa yobumsulwa nokusizwa okungathandeki kwezingane. Kulo, futhi, kukhona ukungabi nalutho nokungabi namahloni, isifiso sokubhebhetheka ekuziphatheni, kodwa akabonisi le mizwa. Ziseqenjini lakhe lesilisa, elincanyana. Futhi wayeyoba owesifazane onesizotha futhi ongenabugovu futhi wayezobonga izingane. Bathandana hhayi ngoba ukuphikisa kudonsela, kodwa ngoba banokufana okuningi. Lapho ngiqala ukufunda ngale mbono futhi nganquma ukuzethula njengendoda, ngaba yisifanekiso somyeni wami, ngenye indlela eyodwa kuphela. Futhi ngokushesha ngahlonipha kakhulu umlobi.
Ibukeka kanjani kusukela ohlangothini
Izenzo zale ndoda zibonakala ngathi ziqondakala futhi ziqondakala - thina endaweni yakhe siziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Owesifazane uthethelela kakhulu umuntu - njengoba ayezothethelela. Futhi uyaziqonda kahle. Uyakwazi ukumvumela ukuba ahambe uhambo olude futhi alinde ukubuya kwakhe iminyaka. Uvame ukuhlala nokuphila komthandi wakhe, amkhohlwe ngaye - njengabafazi abaningi bezinceku abangacabangi ngomsebenzi wabo, kodwa kuphela-ngokukhuthaza umyeni wakhe. Futhi, ngezinye izikhathi ezingacacisiswanga futhi eziphanayo, indoda iyaziphatha - yamukela owesifazane ngemva kokuphinga okuphindaphindiwe. Ngezinye izikhathi ufaka umsebenzi wakhe kanye nempumelelo yothandekayo wakhe wonke umbala nokuzikhandla komphefumulo. Lolu thando lungahlala isikhathi eside. Futhi akayikukhanyisa ngokushesha - udinga umzuzwana weqiniso, uhlobo oluthile lokugqugquzela kwangaphandle, ukuze abantu bavuleke, baphenduke ngokungalindelekile futhi babone. Lolu thando luzalwa ngokuhamba, emcimbini we-rock, kusihlwa, enkulumweni eyimfihlo, ehhovisi elide elide.
Yini ebhalansi
Yeka imininingwane ephawulekayo: uma owesifazane engakaze afune ukuba, ngisho nehora ngendoda futhi akakwazi ukuzicabanga ngomuntu wesintu futhi ajabulele umdlalo onjalo, kuyoba nzima kakhulu, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba athande omunye. Okufanayo kusebenza kumadoda. Mhlawumbe, emphefumulweni onjalo awukho indawo yomuntu wesibili. Futhi akukho isifiso sokumthanda, ukuqonda nokwamukela omunye ... Asikho isidingo salokho?