Kunezimfihlo eziningana ongazenza ngazo ukuze amadoda athande othandweni.
Ukubukeka kwakho yisikhali sakho esiyinhloko.
Into yokuqala umuntu ayenaka ngayo ukubonakala komuntu wesifazane. Ukubukeka kwakho, isitayela, ukwakheka, isitayela sezinwele kuyizinto eziyinhloko zalokhu. Ingabe lo muntu owakuthandayo nakanjani uyakunaka.
Ukubukeka kwakho kufanele kube yisifazane - ingubo, izithende eziphakeme. Kuhlale kudingekile ukugcizelela isithunzi sakho. Futhi kufanele wazi ukuthi amadoda afisa ukuwazisa kanjani imilenze emihle.
Isinyathelo sokuqala sesiye sithathwe - le ndoda yakucabangela wena, wamthakazelisa ngobuhle bayo nokuyingqayizivele. Futhi yini elandelayo? Amanye amahle amahle indoda ngeke iphelele. Ukuthi amadoda atholakala othandweni, kubalulekile ukuthi ube nezwe elicebile ngaphakathi.
Uma unenhlanhla enkulu futhi uhleka ngobuqotho amahlaya akhe; uma unomusa futhi uzwela abanye; uma ubhekene nezimfanelo ezifana nokufudumala, ubumnene, ububele, ikhono lokusekela nokuzwela - khona-ke indoda ngeke ibe nenye indlela ngaphandle uma ithanda wena.
Ukhululekile futhi uqiniseka, wazi ukuthi ufanelekile futhi uzihloniphe wena - umoya omkhulu nendlela yokuphila. Yilaba besifazane abafisa kunoma yimuphi umuntu.
Uma unesifiso sokufuna amadoda ukuba athambekele othandweni nawe, ke ungahambi ezenzweni ezingenangqondo kakhulu.
Ucabanga ukuthi lokho kwakuzophendula kanjani amadoda, babuze umbuzo olandelayo: "Yini okufanele uyenze ukuze amadoda awele othandweni?"
Cishe ku-chorus, bazophendula ukuthi indlela eya ezinhliziyweni zabo ilele ngesisu. Akulindele? Ngokumangalisa, kodwa kunjalo ngempela.
Ukuthanda amadoda, ukuzwa imibono yabo kubo, ukuthandwa kubaluleke kakhulu kuwo wonke intombazane. Bazama okusemandleni abo, bazama ukubonakala, bafunde ukuklolodela nokudlala ngothando.
Noma kunjalo, ngokuvamile kwenzeka kanjalo, ukwenza amadoda athandane nawe, ukumangaze ngobuhle babo kanye nokubukeka kunzima futhi akunakwenzeka.
Kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi yikuphi okuthandayo nokuheha abantu besifazane. Indlela yokuziphatha ukushiya uphawu enhliziyweni yakhe. I-Psychology yamadoda inzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda. Yiqiniso, kukhona amantombazane abafunde ngokucophelela zonke izimfihlo zesimo sengqondo zesilisa futhi abasebenzisa ulwazi lwabo, ukunqoba izinhliziyo nezingqondo zabantu.
Amantombazane, amadoda abazingeli. Uma ungumuntu omusha, khona-ke isithakazelo sakhe kuwe sizosheshe sinyamalale. Njengoba wazi, amadoda abathandi abesifazane abatholakalayo. Ngakho-ke lo muntu makacabange ukuthi nguye oqala ubuhlobo bakho. Into eyinhloko ukuthi akasoli ukuthi uthathe noma yikuphi ukuthatha ukuthanda naye.
Kumele ube mnandi kuye, njenge-rebus, okulula ukuxazulula, kodwa awufuni ukuhamba. Ekukhulumisaneni naye, jabulela futhi ulula. Ungesabi ukukhombisa imizwa yakho nemizwa yakho.
Kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungambizi njalo futhi unikeze umhlangano. Kumele ube nokuphila kwakho, ungenzi umuntu phakathi kwendawo yakho yonke.
Khumbula ukuthi ungowesifazane. Mnike ithuba lokufakazela ukuthi uyindoda yangempela eyazi ukuthi ungathanda kanjani intombazane futhi imnakekele.
Ingabe ufuna amadoda abe othandweni? Bese udlala nabo emdlalweni - ake ngizizwe ukuthi uyona omuhle kunazo zonke hhayi ihora elifanayo, uzothandana naye ezindlebeni.